"MEN DEY" (3).

"While the percentage may be applauding, it is not all women." ~ X

Watching the "Men Dey" video, it is very easy to misinterpret what went on there. Why? Because what most of us saw was a collection of clipped moments from a much longer video. The goal of such clips is often to get people talking, sometimes even to ragebait us into engagement. And just like that, we pick a side, run with one version of the story, and start acting like experts on a matter we hardly have the full gist of.

The pastor eventually had to make a public statement explaining what happened. And honestly, it was one of those things that, if we had looked a little closer, if we had tried to see what was actually in front of us rather than what our biases had already programmed us to see, we might have understood from the beginning.

You see, the "Men Dey" response wasn't necessarily an entire hall filled with women independently declaring that men who could provide a lavish lifestyle still existed. Rather, the women were echoing a response that one lady had given, which the pastor hadn't heard clearly.

He had asked a question, someone in the audience responded, "Men dey," and because he couldn't hear her properly, he asked what she had said. When the response was repeated, it wasn't just the original lady who said it again. Other women joined in, repeating it for him, and the whole thing became funny enough that you could see them laughing.

It was one of those moments where a single person's response becomes a sort of comic relief for an entire room. And if you've ever been in a gathering where one person says something ridiculous and everybody starts repeating it, you understand how easily that happens.

But somehow, a moment of collective laughter became evidence for a much bigger claim about women.

And this is where it gets interesting: the narrative that women are highly materialistic.

Now, do I believe women like money? Absolutely. But I also believe that, as human beings, both men and women enjoy material things. There's nothing particularly shocking about wanting financial comfort, nice things, or a lifestyle that makes life easier. The problem begins when we take a human desire, attach it to an entire gender, and use it to make sweeping conclusions about millions of people.

Yes, women like money. But does that mean every single woman would become unreasonable in the presence of it? Does it mean every woman is willing to compromise her values, abandon her convictions, or entertain a man she doesn't even like simply because he can afford her lifestyle?

Come on, this is 2026, for Christ's sake! A lot of women can afford their own lifestyles. Some have careers, businesses, and sources of income that allow them to provide for themselves. Some genuinely want a partner who can match them financially, while others prioritise different things entirely.

And even among women who desire a wealthy man, there is still a difference between wanting financial stability in a relationship and being willing to accept absolutely anything for money.

So where exactly does this generalisation fit?

The truth is, we are often so eager to prove a point that we stop paying attention to whether the evidence actually supports it. We see a few women in a video, hear a phrase repeated, and suddenly, we have a conclusion about all women. We forget that context matters, that people are individuals, and that a few seconds of footage cannot tell us everything about what an entire room believes.

Dearest reader, just because a statement was echoed doesn't mean everyone who repeated it genuinely believed it. Haven't we all been caught up in a bad joke before? Laughed at something ridiculous, repeated a phrase because everyone else was saying it, or joined in on a moment without necessarily agreeing with what was being said?

Sometimes, people are just having a laugh. Sometimes, a joke is just a joke.

And perhaps, before we turn every viral clip into evidence against an entire group of people, we should learn to ask a few more questions, look for context, and give ourselves the chance to understand what actually happened.

#IAMFeminist 

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