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THE RIGHT HABITS.

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“There’s nothing you can’t do, if you get the habits right.” ~ X In the words of William James, all our life, so far as it has definite form, is but a mass of habits. Pause small. Do you know that your decisions and even your indecisions are mostly built on your habits? It sounds wild, but it is true. You may think you are making well informed decisions or even terrible ones, but most times you are simply following a familiar pathway. A habit. The conversation about habits is very interesting to me because, well, I can be such a lazy person. I like easy ways. I like small tricks that help me get the job done without stressing too much. And that curiosity led me to really think about habits and how important they are in our lives. Think about it this way. Everything in this world is made up of atoms. Atoms are the basic and simplest unit of any element. That is exactly how habits work. They are the basic unit of behaviour. They quietly build our personality, our lifestyle, and eventuall...
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GIST O'CLOCK.

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Dearest reader, I attended a mask party yesterday and mehn! It was great, and the best part? I performed on stage. It was organised by my faculty, a fresher's welcome party, hence I wrote something that would appeal to the average fresher. Now, you my dear wasn't there, and I wasn't able to get a full coverage of my time up there, so here goes nothing (the written yada I performed)  Let me know how much you like it, deal? She opens the WhatsApp group chat. Yet another, “Congratulations, you’ve been admitted.” Her chest tightens, celebration everywhere, but not for her. With trembling fingers, she leaves the group, minimizes WhatsApp, and opens Chrome again. For the third time today, JAMB CAPS. Her heart feels like a hollow auditorium, and the only beat is panic. The fear spreads across her chest while she waits for her JAMB CAPS to load her status, her eyes filled with hope as she mutters under her breath, “God abeg.” The dread that this time would be just like last year, w...
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BE YE AUDACIOUS..

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One thing I realized recently is this: once you truly set your mind on something, things begin to align. It’s almost like the universe responds to conviction. Opportunities show up. Help shows up. Strength you didn’t know you had shows up. Just put your mind on something. Decide. Even against all odds, decide. There was this particular thing I wanted to do. I had no idea how it would work out. It looked like a lot. It felt like a lot. Everything in me kept asking, “Who sent you?” But I told myself that this year, I will do things that scare me out of my mind. So I signed up. No long talk. Mehn, it was hard. There were moments I questioned myself. Moments I almost backed out quietly. But I held on to the possibility, even when it looked impossible. I kept telling myself, “It will work out.” Not because I had proof. But because I chose to believe it would. And somehow, it did. Every time something tried to scatter the plan, something else would fall into place. Every time fea...
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Somedays it feels like it is all over for you. Like this is it. Like you have finally reached the end of your strength. And then before you even have time to settle into that sadness, God is like 'hold up, I am not done with you, I have big plans for you.' I remember having one of the worst days ever yesterday. Everything felt heavy. I cried until sleep took me. It felt like my heart needed a break from existing. But then today came, and somehow, it was terrific. Not perfect, not magical, just good in a way that reminded me that life can switch up so quickly. One day you are breaking, the next day you are breathing again. I like to say I have the best people around me, because I really do. There is nothing that compares to having a circle you can be vulnerable with. It is golden. I remember calling a friend while I was crying. I was a mess. The friend did not try to fix anything. They did not give long speeches. They just stayed on the call while I unraveled. And somehow, that ...
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TODAYY

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There are Mondays, and then there’s today. Mehn! Is it just me, or do you ever get those days where you didn’t really do a lot, but you feel so tired, like you’ve been carrying the weight of the whole world on your shoulders. Not the loud kind of tired that comes from stress or movement, but the quiet one that settles deep in your chest and refuses to leave. There’s a degree of exhaustion that words cannot fully express. You feel it in your bones. Your body is present, but your mind is far away, weighed down by thoughts, emotions, and things you don’t even know how to name. It’s the kind of tired that sleep alone doesn’t fix, because it didn’t come from doing too much, it came from feeling too much. Maybe you showed up when you didn’t feel like it. Maybe you carried conversations, expectations, and silent worries all day. Maybe you were strong in ways no one noticed. And now, your body is simply asking to be held gently. Dearest reader, if today feels heavier than usual, please be kind...
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"Kambili, you're almost 16, you're beautiful, you'll find more love than you ever need in a lifetime" ~ Father Amadi. My all time favourite of Chimamanda's books is Purple Hibiscus. Now, when I was younger there was just this line that broke my heart, I felt it was just cruel and inhuman and utterly hurtful. It was a line by a character "Father Amadi", but as I grew older, I understood. It was a necessary evil. You know that thing where they say, ,"Don't worry you'll get it when you grow older" ladies and gentlemen, it is so true. Give it time, it's not even an insult. They're some lessons only time would make you understand.  The older you get, the more you gain perspective on things. You'll realize that there's another shade beyond black and white and the world doesn't exactly go your way, it goes THE WAY. Now, I recently found myself in a position where I used Father Amadi's line, and in my he...
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"Kambili, you're almost 16, you're beautiful, you'll find more love than you ever need in a lifetime" ~ Father Amadi. My all time favourite of Chimamanda's books is Purple Hibiscus. Now, when I was younger there was just this line that broke my heart, I felt it was just cruel and inhuman and utterly hurtful. It was a line by a character "Father Amadi", but as I grew older, I understood. It was a necessary evil. You know that thing where they say, ,"Don't worry you'll get it when you grow older" ladies and gentlemen, it is so true. Give it time, it's not even an insult. They're some lessons only time would make you understand.  The older you get, the more you gain perspective on things. You'll realize that there's another shade beyond black and white and the world doesn't exactly go your way, it goes THE WAY. Now, I recently found myself in a position where I used Father Amadi's line, and in my he...
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