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I read this somewhere and I had to share it, “Capacity is your ability to grow and handle more. It is not just about what you can do now, but how much you are willing to learn, adapt, and improve over time.” When you hear the word capacity, what comes to mind? If we are being honest, we often tie capacity to what we can do right now. The visible things. The results. The proof. But that is only one side of the story. Capacity is not just in your current output, it is in your potential. In your willingness to stretch, to learn, to adjust, to become. So when we talk about capacity, the real question is, how open are you to growth? Not just “can you handle this now?” but “with time, discipline, and learning, can you grow into handling this?” Because capacity is not static, it is not fixed, it expands gradually, sometimes painfully. But it does. And I think that is such a freeing way to see it. Because then, capacity is not just strength, it is willingness, it is consistency, it is humility...

On today’s episode of jumping on things that scare me out of my mind, your girl has done it again… okay okay 😭 So I have this rule. If I come across an opportunity that I’m only like 50% qualified for skill wise, I will still apply. Not as an expert, not forming anything, just with enough courage to show up and try. That’s exactly what I did today. I applied for something, heart racing, palms sweating, literally holding my breath and fighting fear in real time. And maybe I won’t get it. Maybe I won’t even pass the interview stage. But I’ve come to realize something… it would still be worth it. Because next time, I won’t be this scared. Next time, I’ll show up with a little more confidence. Next time, I’ll believe a bit more that I can actually do it. Dearest reader, maybe some experiences are not always about getting the result you want. Maybe they are about becoming the kind of person who can handle that result when it finally comes. And honestly, that growth? That quiet boldness you...

We all do silly things every now and then. It’s human to err. But you know what is pretty hard? Apologizing. Going back to say, “You know what, I messed up. That’s on me. No excuses. And I swear it won’t happen again.” We don’t talk about how hard that is. Admitting you are wrong the proper way. Instead, we play it cool and hope the other person eventually comes around. So I did something bad. Something outright disrespectful toward a neighbour of mine. The funny thing is that it wasn’t even intended. But being me, I beat myself up about it the whole day. At the end of the day, I managed to gather the courage to go and apologize properly. And that’s when I realized again that admitting you’re wrong is hard. In my head I knew there was no justification for what I did. Still, it was the hardest thing I had to do today. And trust me, I had a very crappy day. I stood for several hours. Yet those few minutes of apology made me panic so badly I felt like my heart would jump right...

So I wrote a poem for mother's day, dedicated to all those grieving, just because we hardly talk about how it feels to celebrate this day with absence for breakfast. So here goes nothing; To everyone whose mother isn’t here anymore. Today may seem heavy. The posts, the pictures, the long calls you cannot make. The hugs you cannot give. But love like that doesn’t disappear. It lives in the things that reminds you of her. So today, if your heart feels tender, let it. Grief is proof that love was real. And somehow, in ways we cannot fully explain, a mother’s love never really leaves. Happy Mother’s Day. To the ones remembering, to the ones missing, to the ones loving from afar. @favvy_Okwans🖤.

My favourite text from the book of Book of Proverbs is Proverbs 13:20. It reads, and I quote, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” It is just right. Association is a powerful factor we mostly underestimate. Have you ever been part of a group and it suddenly dawned on you that you can be more? You may not even notice it at first. You just keep hanging around certain kinds of people, and their consistent behaviour begins to subtly rub off on you. One day you wake up and realize you have come far from where you used to be. You have picked up certain foreign traits simply as a result of association. Hence the need for your circle to be solid. I once read somewhere that if you want to go further or climb higher, surround yourself with people who are actively climbing, or who have already climbed to the point you desire. Their experience may just rub off on you. That is why mentorship exists. As a lazy person, let me share this small hack with you. If ...

Some days you feel like you’re doing well in life. Other days you’re just there wondering if anything you’re doing is even working. And the funny thing is both can be happening at the same time. You can be growing and still feel confused. You can be making progress and still feel like you’re behind. You can be trying your best and still feel like it’s not enough. Life is strange like that. But one thing I’m slowly learning is that not every season of life will give you visible results. Some seasons are just for showing up, learning quietly, adjusting your mindset and trusting that eventually things will make sense. You might not see it now, but something is shifting. Dearest reader, if today feels a little uncertain, breathe, continue, tomorrow might explain what today cannot. @favvy_Okwans🖤.