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"The road not taken has a way of looking more beautiful the longer you stare at it."~ I often say that we don't regret the things we do. What we regret are the things we never did. For the longest time, I saw that idea as a "live your best life in the moment" kind of quote. But recently, I looked at it from another angle and realized something: no matter the path you choose, there will always be another path you didn't. For every decision you make, there is an alternative version of that decision left untouched. And if you could somehow go back in time and choose differently, the path you originally took would become the road not taken. As the quote says, the longer you stare at that road, the more beautiful it begins to look. In SS2, I had to choose between Arts and Science. Honestly, if you knew me back then, you would have bet money on me choosing Arts. But I didn't, and every now and then, I wonder what my life would have looked like if I had. But th...

"Anything too good to be true is actually too good to be true." We're often too quick to call things a scam when they don't meet our expectations. We rarely stop to consider that maybe there were other factors at play, or even question whether our expectations were realistic in the first place. Sometimes the issue isn't that we were deceived. Sometimes it's that we convinced ourselves of a version of reality that was never promised to us. A person can be good and still not be good for you, an opportunity can be legitimate and still not deliver the results you imagined, a plan can fail without being a bad plan. Not everything that disappoints you is a scam. That said, some things really are too good to be true. The problem is that excitement has a way of eradicating discernment. We see the reward, all that comes with it and you forget to read between the lines. Funny enough, at the height of emotions we tend hear what we want to hear and fill in the gaps with o...

If there's one thing I've learnt recently, it's that just because something worked in one season, or God used a particular method to help you at a certain point, doesn't mean it will always be that way. God may have moved on from the strategy you're still holding tightly to simply because it worked once. Be flexible. If something that always worked suddenly stops working, while it is wise to investigate and learn from it, also pay attention to the possibility that God is doing something new. Sometimes, we become so busy asking "why?" and crying over spilled milk that we fail to notice what is right in front of us. While the Alan Watts backward law suggests that understanding the past helps us step into the future, it is not the same as clinging to things, people, opportunities, or even versions of ourselves that no longer serve God's purpose in our lives. Dearest reader, if the door you've been knocking on refuses to open, perhaps God is not asking...

On today's story review of The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, we're looking at the final story in the collection, The Headstrong Historian. And what a way to end a book. The story begins with Nwamgba, a young woman who insists on marrying Obierika despite concerns about his family's history of childlessness and miscarriages. She loves him deeply, but shortly after the birth of their only son, Anikwenwa, he dies, a death she suspects was orchestrated by jealous relatives. Fearing for her son's safety and inheritance, she sends him to the new Catholic school established by the white missionaries, and that's where things begin to change. School gives Anikwenwa opportunities, but it also distances him from the traditions and beliefs his mother holds dear. He becomes a catechist, starts a family of his own, and raises children in a world very different from the one Nwamgba grew up in. But for me, the heart of this story is Afamefuna. Born into Christ...

On today's story review of The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, we're looking at story 11 titled Tomorrow Is Too Far. "He tells you, it did not occur to him to want, because what mattered was what you wanted." Guyyyyyys. The way I screamed when I read that line because who says that? Who writes that? Mehn, Chimamanda writesssssss This story was unsettling in the quietest way possible. It follows a young girl who grows up in the shadow of her older brother, Nonso. He is loved by everyone, admired by everyone, and treated like the center of the universe. Meanwhile, she is left craving the attention and affection that seem to come so naturally to him. At first, I thought this was just another story about sibling rivalry, but it wasn't. The narrator admits that she planned it. She dared Nonso into climbing the tall tree in their grandmother's compound because she wanted something to happen to him. But not death, never death, she simp...

On today's story review of The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, we're looking at story 10 titled The Arrangers of Marriage. Mehnnnnn! Just like the title suggests, the story follows Chinaza, a young Nigerian woman whose aunt and uncle arrange a marriage for her with a doctor living in America. After only a few weeks of getting to know him, she packs her bags and moves across the world to begin a new life. Only, that new life turns out to be very different from what she imagined, what struck me most wasn't even the marriage itself, it was her husband. From changing his Igbo name to Dave Bell, to correcting the way Chinaza spoke, to rejecting anything that connected him to Nigeria, it felt like he was constantly trying to prove he wasn't who he really was. At some point, I found myself thinking, "Oga, rest Na" And I think that's what made the story so interesting. While Chinaza is trying to adjust to a new country, Dave is trying to erase ...