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So, something funny happened today. My sister took a drug, her normal routine drug that helps with a particular pain. And madam was waiting for it to kick in, because it usually takes a while before it starts working, you get? She waited and waited and waited, yet no single relief. Only for her to later find out that she had taken the wrong drug. It’s like taking water for malaria and then spending the whole time waiting for the water to start working and fight the disease. It was simply a case of expecting a result when the action that guarantees that result had not been accurately taken. Like a farmer waiting for harvest when he has not sown. So when it finally dawned on her that she took the wrong stuff, it made sense why she hadn’t felt any relief. And honestly, sometimes that’s how life is. We’re waiting for a result that is not forthcoming, but if you check the system well, you’ll see the bug, the reason it’s not giving what it should give. I like to see life as fair....

You know the story of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego?  That was one of today's sermon texts and I noticed for the first time something they said that really stood out for me, because most times we only pay attention to the first part of their statement. They said, “Our God can save us.” That’s the first part.But the second part is what shocked me.  “But if He chooses not to…” Did you see that? Like, we know God is able, we know He can show up, we know He can do the impossible. But even if He doesn’t, we still won’t bow. We still won’t compromise. We still won’t switch sides. That is a kind of faith that is not common. It’s giving, “God is my Father and I trust Him, but even if He doesn’t come through the way I want, I’m still not leaving Him.” And that’s deep, because it means they were not loyal because they were expecting something, they were loyal because faithfulness had become their identity. It wasn’t a “God please do it so I can believe” kind of thing. It was a lifestyl...

Hello there! Merry weekend... Today had been annoying for me, from a stressful morning to disappointment later, and I was really frustrated. At a point, I just laid in my bed crying, as per my solution to every problem, lol. When I was done crying, my sister sat me down and told me stories, gory details to be honest, and omor, when I looked at the events she narrated and what I was supposedly going through, mehn, my problem looked so minute. Now, whatever I was going through was valid, it was a lot, looking at only myself, do you get? But the trick is this, can you look beyond your current issues? Because the moment you can, you’d be able to be grateful to have chaos so small it fits on the tip of your tongue. Dearest reader, sometimes we get so consumed by our own pain that we forget that life is happening to everybody, and some people are fighting battles they don’t even have the strength to explain. This isn’t to make you feel guilty for feeling bad, no. Your feelings are valid, you...

“I’m a nerd for purpose.”~ PIE I’ve been reading this book recently. It’s a branding book, and there’s something I’m supposed to learn from it. Now, this book is hardcover, and you’ll be surprised because it’s just 200 plus pages, yet I’ve been reading it for the past one month. Same me that finished an African novel of over 400 pages in less than a week. How na? It honestly made me ask myself: how can I read African literature so fast, a book with like 45 chapters plus, but I can’t finish a 10 chapter educational book? And then it dawned on me. Maybe I’m not really a “reader” the way I thought I was. I’m a lover of fiction. I’m a lover of storytelling. I’m obsessed with plots, characters, emotions, suspense, and drama. I do read non fiction, yes. But the speed at which I consume fiction is actually crazy fr. That realization reminded me of an interview of Pastor Irene I watched recently. He was asked what he does for fun, and his reply was: “Purpose. I’m a nerd for purpose.” In my hea...

“Happiness does not happen in your comfort zone.”~ I always say happiness is a decision, because you can have it all and still be unhappy simply because you haven’t really decided to be happy. Low-key, every day we encounter at least a million things that threaten to steal our joy, but do you let them? The littlest things could ruin one’s mood, yet the happiest people are those who don’t let things irritate them as much. People who are willing to take things easy, to let go of annoying situations. So you see, happiness isn’t always comfortable. We literally have to go out of our way to create our own happiness. You don’t sit with folded hands and expect it to be handed to you. You have to make yourself happy at the end of the day, because the pressure of life and the daily news of disasters is enough to steal your smile. That’s why one of my favourite cliché lines is, “If you can’t find your smile, I have one you can borrow.” I know someone who had been depressed for the longest time, ...

I read somewhere that if you’ve failed at a couple of times, then you’ve gained the opportunity to discover what doesn’t work. And honestly, that’s already progress. Because once you know what doesn’t work, you’re automatically getting closer to what does. It’s like this annoying game my sister plays, a kind of guessing game. The more wrong answers you give, the easier it becomes to find the correct one, because every failure eliminates an option. And before you know it, you’re left with only the right answer. That’s exactly how life works too. Dearest reader, fail as much as possible. Failing builds something inside you that success cannot teach you quickly: resilience, wisdom, patience, strategy, and thick skin. It teaches you how to start again without losing yourself. It forces you to grow muscles you didn’t even know you needed. And truly, I think failing is one of the biggest signs that you’re doing something meaningful. Because you can’t fail at what you never tried. As a peopl...