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I was relating something that happened to me to a friend today and he was like, “After going through all that, you still believe in good people?” and I had to explain something to him. See, when horrible things happen to us, it has a way of trying to change us. How we relate with others, the lens with which we see the world. But most times, that change is just a trauma response. When you see someone go through hurt and suddenly change who they are, or the way they behave or see things, just know they might be avoiding the healing stage. So when stuff goes south and I end up hurting or traumatized, I won’t hide or run away from the pain. I’ll face it head on, heal, and make sure it doesn’t change who I am, because my identity is the constant. Who I am should remain even when I go through the messiest bits, because who I am is more than me. It is backed up by whose I am. So even when I’m betrayed, I won’t give back as much as I get. I will lead with love, because IAM is love,...

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Happy International Women's day, to all the amazing women out there , the ones making waves, building systems and causing change and impact in diverse sectors.  To the woman becoming, unraveling, striving to be more, keep at it.  To the woman broken, lost , exhausted and overwhelmed, it does get better, and one day it'll all make sense. To the woman healing, letting go, learning to love herself, it's only but a season, and it's totally worth it. Here's a old spoken word piece dedicated to woman; Many a time, I find myself wondering how a rib transcended into this seamless, divine piece of art called Woman. Not divine just because of outward beauty, but because her very essence speaks volumes of her Creator’s prowess. And often, when I look at her, I am reminded of the words: "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." Without a second thought, I would stake an entire generation to say that her heart holds more beauty than we could ever comprehen...

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"If dreams do come true, I want you" ~ Trebor Just keep doing the rubbish you do. One day you’ll wake up and it will all make sense. That’s the value of compounding and tenacity. It doesn’t look like much at first, but keep at it and watch the magic unfold. I recently met someone who inspired me greatly. It’s funny how you can find inspiration in the most unconventional places because damn. This interaction had me thinking about how passively we discard certain things simply because they don’t make sense at the moment. But the audacity to keep doing the rubbish you do continually is gold. I’m telling you. Because as you climb higher, the motivation sometimes gets lower. Showing up regardless, even when it feels like you’re doing absolutely nothing, that kind of stubborn consistency is rare. Trust me, the result can eventually blow your mind. Especially when you are being true to yourself. When you kind of believe in your vision even when it’s at odds with the rest of the worl...

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"If you walk into a wrong room, don't rearrange the furniture, just leave." ~ X Just leave!!! This isn't even about a room sef, it's about the substandard things we allow in our lives. My best friend Lee would always say, don't romance with what doesn't feel right to you, because if you hang around it for too long, you'll begin to adjust to it. And that's how it usually starts. Something feels off at first, your spirit even tells you "this thing no pure", but you stay. Small small, what once looked strange begins to look normal. Don't manage what doesn't align with your values. Just run. Take the quickest exit so you don't end up trying to fix what was never your responsibility to fix in the first place. The funny thing is that there are things you shouldn't even attempt to fix. Trying to fix them will only ruin you. Not everything broken is your assignment. Some rooms are simply wrong for you, and the wisest thing you can...

THE HEALTHY COLLABO

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"Read like you've not prayed, and pray like you've not read" ~ X This is what I call balance. Exams are close. Deadlines, CA and assignments are flying up and down. It's what I like to call rush hour. Everywhere you turn there is material to cover, notes to revise, slides to go through, and honestly it can feel like your head is carrying the weight of it all. But in the middle of all this activity, it is important to not just prepare, but to seek God as well. Sometimes we swing to one extreme. We either read and read and read until our brain is tired and we forget that God cares about even the little details of our lives. Or we pray and pray but refuse to sit down and do the actual work that is before us. Wisdom is knowing that both have their place. One thing I really admire about David in the Bible is his habit of inquiring of God. Before battles, before decisions, before movements, David would ask the Lord what to do. He played his part well, he showed up, he f...

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"Just because something did not do what you planned it to do does not mean it is useless" ~ X Sometimes we label things as failures simply because they did not follow our script. As though life was designed to go out way, we had a picture in our head, and when reality refused to cooperate, we quietly pushed the experience into the “waste” basket. But life is rarely ever that linear. That friendship that did not become forever may have taught you discernment, that opportunity that did not turn out as expected may have built capacity, that delay may have saved you from something you were not ready for. Not everything that misses your expectation misses its purpose. We are quick to measure usefulness by outcome, but usefulness is often hidden in process. Growth does not always look like achievement.  You may not have gotten what you wanted, but you got experience, you got perspective. You got strength. And those things are never useless. Dearest reader, so before you discard tha...

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In the words of PIE, “David had resume.” Yes, it sounds funny but think about it well. Oga was not just allowed to enter the battlefield to fight a giant based on vibes or “I just feel like I can do it.” When he stood before Saul, he said, “Thy servant slew both the lion and the bear: and this uncircumcised Philistine shall be as one of them, seeing he hath defied the armies of the living God.” That was not empty confidence, it was experience speaking. David had history.  He did not just say, “Trust me.” He said, “I have done hard things before.” If we bring it to real life statistics, killing a bear or a lion with bare hands is almost impossible. The survival rate of a human in an unarmed fight with a bear is almost zero. Most people who survive bear attacks survive because the bear eventually stops, not because they overpowered it. It had to be a collaboration between divine intervention and uncommon boldness. God showed up, yes. But David also showed up. And that part is importa...