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Why do you see someone else’s progress as a sign of your failure? I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, it’s completely okay to not have it all. That whole feeling bad about your situation just because someone is doing better than you? It’s unnecessary. Everybody is running their own race, so you can’t use someone else’s journey as a metric to measure your progress. In the words of TheOlushola, “Do your best.” As long as you’re doing your best, even if you don’t have all the next person has, it really shouldn’t bother you. A few days ago, I watched a video of Pastor Irene Emmanuel on someone’s WhatsApp status. He told a story about two guys who were constantly being compared. The person comparing them told one of them, “You see that other guy? What he earns in a day, your entire fortune is not up to it.” But the guy responded calmly. He said he had something the other guy didn’t. And guess what it was? He said, “I have enough.” That story rang in my head for days, he had enough....
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Dearest reader, here's a old piece I stumbled on lately, lemme know what you do think, do you believe people are just nice ? **** I don’t believe in good people. Everyone is carrying an agenda, a second mouth behind the first, an ulterior motive tucked neatly beneath their tongue. So when he smiles, I wonder, what is happening inside his head? What storms are rehearsing behind his eyelids? And does that smile even make it past his lips, or does it die quietly in his teeth like a secret that refused to be spoken? I don’t believe in nice people. People are not just nice. They are polished blades wrapped in velvet, endlessly plotting, constantly arranging their intentions like chess pieces on a table you never knew you were sitting at. There is always a catch. A hook hidden in the handshake. A price tag hanging behind the compliment. A contract written in invisible ink. I haven’t met so many people, And I don’t know everything, but this much I know, the people who have hurt me the mos...
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Bad Period Day...

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So my period decided to show up unannounced today, right inside Chem 102 class. I couldn’t cry. I couldn’t get mad. And honestly, it was my fault. I don’t even keep track of when it’s supposed to come. There I was, quietly begging God that if He could just save me from embarrassing myself this one time, I’d immediately download the Flo app and start tracking this annoying circle like a responsible human being. More than anything, I wanted to disappear. Like run out of that class instantly, go straight home, have a long bath, and sleep away the discomfort. But God forbid a girl gets her heart’s desire 😭. That Chem class dragged like it was being sponsored, I was literally counting minutes till the lecture would end. I was sitting there, trying not to die of discomfort, with this vivid fear that if I stood up, the whole class would burst into laughter(Wrong day to be sitting at the front). At the same time, I was forcing myself to understand what was being taught because it was a pretty...
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Bad Period Day...

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So my period decided to show up unannounced today, right inside Chem 102 class. I couldn’t cry. I couldn’t get mad. And honestly, it was my fault. I don’t even keep track of when it’s supposed to come. There I was, quietly begging God that if He could just save me from embarrassing myself this one time, I’d immediately download the Flo app and start tracking this annoying circle like a responsible human being. More than anything, I wanted to disappear. Like run out of that class instantly, go straight home, have a long bath, and sleep away the discomfort. But God forbid a girl gets her heart’s desire 😭. That Chem class dragged like it was being sponsored, I was literally counting minutes till the lecture would end. I was sitting there, trying not to die of discomfort, with this vivid fear that if I stood up, the whole class would burst into laughter(Wrong day to be sitting at the front). At the same time, I was forcing myself to understand what was being taught because it was a pretty...
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Today was… mehn. You know that phrase, “To be forewarned is to be forearmed.” Meaning, if you already know something is coming, you’re better prepared to handle it. At first, it sounded a bit weird to me, because life doesn’t always give you enough time to prepare. Sometimes you’re warned and still shaken. Sometimes you’re warned and still scared. But I think the real point is not that you won’t feel pressure, it’s that you won’t be helpless. That was exactly my experience with the practical I had today. I was forewarned a few days ago, and yesterday night, I made sure to prepare adequately. Now, from hearing other people’s experiences, I already knew it was going to be tight. So the moment we started, I was fast, you get. The impromptu submission didn’t affect me much because I was ready for it. Again, to be forewarned is to be forearmed. Sometimes we have the advantage of knowing what the people before us have had to go through, but that knowledge is meant to help us do b...
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“No one can live above what they believe about themselves.” ~ X I read this somewhere and my first thought was, really, what are my consistent beliefs about myself? I was able to narrow down a couple of them, and it dawned on me that most of what I attempt is a result of what I believe about myself. I believe that at the end of the day, I’ll be able to get the most herculean tasks done excellently, even if it’s close to the deadline. And because of that, I often procrastinate and delay till then, and somehow I still deliver. Another instance is that I believe I cannot cook, and so I can’t cook. If there’s an option to not attempt it, I’d rather rest and not try, do you see? So, dearest reader, what are your beliefs about you? How do you see yourself? Because that’s so important, as it defines how far you can go. What you can do or cannot do is a function of the kind of belief systems you uphold, do you get? Therefore, ensure you have the right belief systems. Ensure you rate yourself. ...
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I read somewhere that pain makes you a better person, but while it is true, there's a side to it, so I will like to paraphrase it, “if you let it, pain can make you a better person.” A poet I love once said, the thing about pain is that it demands to be felt. So pain isn't comfortable, and discomfort often advances your attitude. Therefore, pain can either make you bitter and angry, or angry enough to become better. You become effectively angry, a kind of anger that makes you want to make stuff work. That is how, and only how, pain can make you better. Another this is that, when pain overstays, it can start shaping your mindset, your reactions, even the way you see people. It can make you suspicious of love, tired of trying, and quick to assume the worst. So yes, pain can make you better, but only when you refuse to let it turn you into someone you do not recognise. When you let it teach you, not destroy you.  Dearest reader, pain will always leave a mark, the real question is ...
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