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One thing I realized recently is this: once you truly set your mind on something, things begin to align. It’s almost like the universe responds to conviction. Opportunities show up. Help shows up. Strength you didn’t know you had shows up. Just put your mind on something. Decide. Even against all odds, decide. There was this particular thing I wanted to do. I had no idea how it would work out. It looked like a lot. It felt like a lot. Everything in me kept asking, “Who sent you?” But I told myself that this year, I will do things that scare me out of my mind. So I signed up. No long talk. Mehn, it was hard. There were moments I questioned myself. Moments I almost backed out quietly. But I held on to the possibility, even when it looked impossible. I kept telling myself, “It will work out.” Not because I had proof. But because I chose to believe it would. And somehow, it did. Every time something tried to scatter the plan, something else would fall into place. Every time fea...

Somedays it feels like it is all over for you. Like this is it. Like you have finally reached the end of your strength. And then before you even have time to settle into that sadness, God is like 'hold up, I am not done with you, I have big plans for you.' I remember having one of the worst days ever yesterday. Everything felt heavy. I cried until sleep took me. It felt like my heart needed a break from existing. But then today came, and somehow, it was terrific. Not perfect, not magical, just good in a way that reminded me that life can switch up so quickly. One day you are breaking, the next day you are breathing again. I like to say I have the best people around me, because I really do. There is nothing that compares to having a circle you can be vulnerable with. It is golden. I remember calling a friend while I was crying. I was a mess. The friend did not try to fix anything. They did not give long speeches. They just stayed on the call while I unraveled. And somehow, that ...

There are Mondays, and then there’s today. Mehn! Is it just me, or do you ever get those days where you didn’t really do a lot, but you feel so tired, like you’ve been carrying the weight of the whole world on your shoulders. Not the loud kind of tired that comes from stress or movement, but the quiet one that settles deep in your chest and refuses to leave. There’s a degree of exhaustion that words cannot fully express. You feel it in your bones. Your body is present, but your mind is far away, weighed down by thoughts, emotions, and things you don’t even know how to name. It’s the kind of tired that sleep alone doesn’t fix, because it didn’t come from doing too much, it came from feeling too much. Maybe you showed up when you didn’t feel like it. Maybe you carried conversations, expectations, and silent worries all day. Maybe you were strong in ways no one noticed. And now, your body is simply asking to be held gently. Dearest reader, if today feels heavier than usual, please be kind...

"Kambili, you're almost 16, you're beautiful, you'll find more love than you ever need in a lifetime" ~ Father Amadi. My all time favourite of Chimamanda's books is Purple Hibiscus. Now, when I was younger there was just this line that broke my heart, I felt it was just cruel and inhuman and utterly hurtful. It was a line by a character "Father Amadi", but as I grew older, I understood. It was a necessary evil. You know that thing where they say, ,"Don't worry you'll get it when you grow older" ladies and gentlemen, it is so true. Give it time, it's not even an insult. They're some lessons only time would make you understand.  The older you get, the more you gain perspective on things. You'll realize that there's another shade beyond black and white and the world doesn't exactly go your way, it goes THE WAY. Now, I recently found myself in a position where I used Father Amadi's line, and in my he...

"Kambili, you're almost 16, you're beautiful, you'll find more love than you ever need in a lifetime" ~ Father Amadi. My all time favourite of Chimamanda's books is Purple Hibiscus. Now, when I was younger there was just this line that broke my heart, I felt it was just cruel and inhuman and utterly hurtful. It was a line by a character "Father Amadi", but as I grew older, I understood. It was a necessary evil. You know that thing where they say, ,"Don't worry you'll get it when you grow older" ladies and gentlemen, it is so true. Give it time, it's not even an insult. They're some lessons only time would make you understand.  The older you get, the more you gain perspective on things. You'll realize that there's another shade beyond black and white and the world doesn't exactly go your way, it goes THE WAY. Now, I recently found myself in a position where I used Father Amadi's line, and in my he...

Around last week, some of my friends and I were having a conversation, and someone said, “The children of Israel were so rebellious, even after all the signs God showed them.” That single statement led to a full blown argument. Soon enough, we had two sides. Group A believed the Israelites were ungrateful, forgetful, and rebellious. Their argument was that God went above and beyond for them, yet they still refused to obey. Group B came from another school of thought. Their point was simple. We are humans, and humans are wired to err. If our generation lived in those days, we would probably have done worse than the Israelites. According to them, the issue was not just seeing God’s power, but human programming. As someone sitting on the fence, I could clearly see both sides, and honestly, they were both right. Group A felt it was illogical for the Israelites to disobey after witnessing such mighty acts. They believed that if our generation experienced even half of those mirac...