Can we be cool even when we don’t see eye to eye on a matter?

When I say Cristina Yang is my favourite character from Grey’s Anatomy and Derek and Meredith are my favourite couple from the show, I’m serious.

Let’s talk about Derek and Meredith.

They don’t have a perfect relationship, but there’s just this ease with them that I love. Take, for instance, the patient they once worked on together, a man who had killed five women and was on death row.

The case was a lot for both of them. Derek’s dad had been killed by someone like him, so Derek wanted the man to live long enough to face his death sentence. Meredith, on the other hand, felt compassion for the man despite his crimes. She would rather he died in the hospital, as he wished.

So yeah, on this particular case, they were completely at odds.

But guess what?

They were not unkind to each other.

Meredith literally attended the man’s execution, she’s sentimental like that, and when she came out of the execution room, Derek was outside waiting for her in his car.

Seeing that made me want to scream!!!!

What do you mean you absolutely hate this person’s decision, but you still respect it? What do you mean you can disagree with someone so deeply and still show up for them?

That is beyond being the bigger person. The kind of love that allows you to do that is so damn cool.

Dearest reader, we do this thing where we get so mad at the people we love that we seem to forget that we love them. We are at odds, and all of a sudden, we become mean to them, as though disagreement somehow cancels affection.

But the reality is, we cannot always be on the same page as the people we love. We cannot always agree with their choices or understand their thought process. Sometimes, we will even strongly disagree with them.

But surely, we must never forget to love them despite it.

You can disagree with someone and still be kind to them, you can hate their decision and still care about them, you can stand on completely different sides of an argument and still meet each other with love.

Tat’s the real test of love, not whether we agree, but whether we remember that we love each other when we don’t.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.