IMPERFECT HUMAN.



The thing with being disappointed by people is that it is often tied to our expectations of them. We expect that they know better, that they should do better, that they should somehow be better.

We often place people on a pedestal that is unreasonably high, and in doing so, we set ourselves up to be hurt when they inevitably fall short of it. People are not one thing. If they were, perhaps it would be easier to make a verdict, to conclude that someone is either a this or that.

It would be so much easier to validate our rage if there weren't sides to people that are utterly delightful. If the person who hurt us wasn't also the person who once made us laugh until our stomachs hurt. If the person who disappointed us wasn't also kind, thoughtful, generous, or loving in other moments.

But that's the thing about being human. We are complicated.

We are perfectly imperfect. We have flaws, shortcomings, bad days and baggage we are still learning how to carry, we get things wrong. Sometimes, we are the reason someone else is hurting, but we also have parts of us that are beautiful, kind and genuinely amazing. We can be good people and still do bad things, we can love someone deeply and still hurt them, we can know better and still fail to do better.

And that is why it is so difficult to fully decide whether someone is a jerk or simply having a bad day. Sometimes, they are both a flawed human being and someone who did something wrong.

Dearest reader, expectations and disappointments come when we forget that the people we love are humans too. They will fall below the pedestal we place them on. They will disappoint us, misunderstand us, fail us and sometimes hurt us.

That doesn't mean we have to excuse the hurt or pretend that what they did was okay. It simply means we don't have to reduce an entire person to a single moment.

Maybe loving people well also means learning to see them in their entirety, not just through the lens of what they did to us.

After all, we are all imperfect humans, two contradictory truth can exist about a person.



@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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