TALK!

A lot of things could be avoided if we just talked.

That was the realization I came to today.

I had a little quarrel with one of my favorite people, and for a few days we were at odds. It was such a weird feeling because this is literally the person who vets almost all my edits. I'd finish editing something, instinctively want to send it across, then remember we weren't exactly talking, and I'd just keep my phone.

I don't keep grudges, that's too much work. I don't even let the sun set on my anger. I'm usually quick to be the bigger person. So as the days passed, I realized I wasn't angry anymore. Hurt? A little. Disappointed? Maybe. But angry? Not anymore.

The problem was that we'd both said things in anger, and pride made it difficult to admit that maybe we had gone too far. We both knew something needed to be fixed, but neither of us wanted to be the first to lower our guard.

As we finally made efforts to sort things out, it hit me that almost everything could have been avoided if we had simply talked. If we had calmed down, paused for a moment, and had an honest conversation. We're both logical people, we didn't have to agree on everything, but we could have disagreed respectfully.

Communication has a funny way of clearing the fog that assumptions create. Many conflicts don't grow because the issue is too big, they grow because silence gives misunderstandings room to sit and cross his legs.

Dearest reader, one mark of an intelligent person is the ability to agree to disagree. Not every conversation will end with both people changing their minds, and that's okay, talk about things. And if you still end up on different pages, agree to disagree.

But let there be an agreement. Let there be understanding. Let there be a talking.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.