PSEUDO-PEACE.
The fact is, this is completely unnecessary.
Often, when we leave things unsaid for the so called sake of peace, what follows isn't peace at all. It only breeds loathing in the one who had so much to say but chose silence, and oblivion in the one who assumes everything is fine simply because they were never confronted.
I hate confrontation. Truly, I do.
But if I do something wrong, please confront me. It'll be a hard pill to swallow, but I'd rather swallow a bitter pill than unknowingly keep hurting someone I care about.
In the same vein, if you do something that hurts me, I'll tell you. Not because I want to fight, but because I don't want resentment to find a home in my heart. I've learned that the quickest way to let go of hurt is to bring it into the open. The conversations we avoid today often become the bitterness we carry tomorrow.
Peace isn't the absence of disagreement. Peace is the safety of a relationship where we can agree to disagree , where we can say, "That hurt me," "I don't see it that way," or "I wish you handled that differently," and still choose each other afterwards.
The irony is that leaving things unsaid creates only one thing: the illusion of peace -- Pseudo peace.
It looks calm on the surface, but underneath, hurt is piling up, and resentment is quietly gathering strength. Every unspoken feeling becomes another brick in a wall that was never meant to exist.
Eventually, the wall becomes too heavy to hold. One day, it all comes crashing down, and the explosion is almost always more destructive than the small disagreement you were trying so hard to avoid in the first place.
Dearest reader, Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for a relationship is to have the uncomfortable conversation.
Real peace isn't frail, surely, it can survive honesty.
@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.
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