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I read somewhere that pain makes you a better person, but while it is true, there's a side to it, so I will like to paraphrase it, “if you let it, pain can make you a better person.”

A poet I love once said, the thing about pain is that it demands to be felt. So pain isn't comfortable, and discomfort often advances your attitude. Therefore, pain can either make you bitter and angry, or angry enough to become better. You become effectively angry, a kind of anger that makes you want to make stuff work. That is how, and only how, pain can make you better.

Another this is that, when pain overstays, it can start shaping your mindset, your reactions, even the way you see people. It can make you suspicious of love, tired of trying, and quick to assume the worst.

So yes, pain can make you better, but only when you refuse to let it turn you into someone you do not recognise. When you let it teach you, not destroy you. 

Dearest reader, pain will always leave a mark, the real question is what kind of mark will it leave on you?

And if you must be angry, be angry enough to become better. Angry enough to heal. Angry enough to become the version of yourself that your pain tried to bury.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.