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It’s been a while since I last watched a K drama, but after finishing my long series, How to Get Away with Murder, I decided to switch things up and watch something light, dreamy, and fantasy filled. That was how I started a K drama titled Lovely Runner, and wow… it’s the kind of beautiful, heartbreaking love story that makes your eyes water without even warning you.

I remember the friend who recommended it telling me, “The total time those characters were truly happy in the whole series is not even up to two episodes.” I honestly thought she was exaggerating, but after watching it, I completely understood what she meant. The story was fun, interesting, emotional, and I genuinely enjoyed it, even though it stressed me like mahd.

At some point, my sister saw me watching the series and just shaking my head like somebody that life has dealt with. She laughed and said, “This is why I don’t like K drama. It’s unrealistic, the characters are too slow, too soft.” And I replied, “If you want fast and strong characters, abeg go and watch Jackie Chan.” 😭

It was a joke, but it was also true.

Because sometimes, we do this thing where we want something to represent what it was never designed to represent. We want something to be something else entirely, even when there are already plenty of options out there that fit exactly what we want.

There are different genres of movies for a reason. You can’t be looking for action and go and download a K drama romance, then start lamenting that there’s no fighting or gbas gbos. If you want action, it exists. If you want romance, it exists. Don’t expect a story written to move softly to suddenly start running in your direction.

If you’re looking for gbas gbos, there’s Annalise Keating waiting for you. If you’re looking for a love story that can wait 15 years with unrealistic devotion, then Ryu Sun Jae is also waiting for you.

Dearest reader, this doesn’t end with movies. It reflects in how we treat people too.

You can have someone in your life, yet you’re constantly nagging them to become someone else. You keep complaining that they’re not what you imagined, not what you expected, not what you wanted them to be. And that, like I would usually say, is the wrong way to love someone.

Let people be themselves. If they are not it for you, don’t force it. Don’t fight it. Don’t stress yourself. Simply go and find who is it for you.

If the genre doesn’t appeal to you, there’s another one out there that will. Life nuh suppose hard.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.