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“Your worth is not a measure of your outcome.”

I’ve had to remind myself of this more than ever this season, because there’s this project that has been messing with my head.

You know that moment when you know you can do so much better, but somehow all you keep producing is average? So you start again, change strategy, try a new approach… and with each attempt, it feels like you’re getting worse instead of better.

Yes. That has been my week.

And it almost made me mistake my repeated inability to get it right as a measure of my self worth.

So I had to pause and remind myself: I didn’t fail, the project did.

My coach would always say it, that I must learn to separate myself from the project.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that it’s not always easy. The line between “I failed” and “this failed” is thin, and the confusion is subtle. One minute you’re just trying to fix a task, the next minute you’re questioning your entire capacity.

And that kind of doubt is crippling.

Dearest reader, nothing is worth questioning your identity over.

And for me, it gets easier when the waves come because my identity is hinged on something bigger than me. I know who I am. I know whose I am. I know that I AM is.

So when the voice in my head whispers that I might be a failure because something failed, I simply remind myself of who I belong to.

And somehow, that does the trick.

Remember, your worth is not a measure of what you produce, what you achieve, what you give, or how much you can do. Your worth is constant. It is who you are, as a feature of whose you are.

I think it’s profound that we remember that.

Also, I saw a meme today that asked, “How much are you worth?” and the reply was, “So much that a man laid his life down for me.”

And it really hit me.

Because nothing, absolutely nothing in this world is worth giving up your life for, yet you and I are. So why do we still have the guts to let failure determine our value?

Think about it.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.