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"You must constantly separate how you feel from who you are" ~ X

Feelings are not identity. Feeling is not being.

The thing about feelings is that they are temporary. They come and go, they rise and fall. But who you are? That is deeper. That is constant. That is not meant to be tossed around by every emotion that shows up.

I was trying to record a video today and omor, it was hard. I kept missing my lines, the camera wouldn’t stay still, I was sweating, everything that could go wrong, went wrong. At some point, I got frustrated and just gave up.

In that moment, it felt like I couldn’t do it.

But a few minutes later, I stood up again and said, “hell yeah I can do this, because I’m Favour Okwanyionu.”

And I tried again. It wasn’t perfect, but it was done.

Imagine if I had concluded that I was a failure just because I felt frustrated. That would’ve been a lie. Because in that moment, I was feeling frustration, but I am not frustration.

And that’s the difference.

You have to learn to separate your feelings from your identity. The same way you separate your outcome from your worth. Like my coach would say, if a project fails, it is the project that failed, not you.

Dearest reader, your identity is not on trial every time something doesn’t go well.

So feel what you feel, but don’t become it. I hope you remember this the next time your emotions get loud and try to tell you who you are.

You are still you, whole and capable, regardless of the moment.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.