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“Don’t put yourself in a position where you are at the mercy of someone else’s intention and they don’t have the capacity to do right by you” ~ Eric Gugua.

We often cling to intention because it sounds good. It feels safe to hear someone say they mean well, that they care, that they would never intentionally hurt you. 

But intention without capacity is a quiet danger. You can be loved by someone who still does not have the emotional, mental, or practical ability to show up rightly for you.

Good intentions do not cancel incompetence, they do not heal repeated damage, they do not make inconsistency okay. When someone lacks the capacity to do right by you, their intentions become irrelevant to your wellbeing. At some point, staying becomes self betrayal.

Choosing distance is not wickedness, it is self preservation. You are not asking for too much by wanting alignment between what is said and what can actually be sustained.

Dearest reader, in the words of Eric Gugua, “Any intention that is not backed by a willingness to increase capacity is not to be trusted or endured.” Choose safety, choose capacity, choose yourself.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.