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"Kambili, you're almost 16, you're beautiful, you'll find more love than you ever need in a lifetime" ~ Father Amadi.


My all time favourite of Chimamanda's books is Purple Hibiscus. Now, when I was younger there was just this line that broke my heart, I felt it was just cruel and inhuman and utterly hurtful. It was a line by a character "Father Amadi", but as I grew older, I understood. It was a necessary evil.

You know that thing where they say, ,"Don't worry you'll get it when you grow older" ladies and gentlemen, it is so true. Give it time, it's not even an insult. They're some lessons only time would make you understand. 

The older you get, the more you gain perspective on things. You'll realize that there's another shade beyond black and white and the world doesn't exactly go your way, it goes THE WAY.

Now, I recently found myself in a position where I used Father Amadi's line, and in my head I was like "Damnnnnnn!" Because years ago I'd kill me for that.

Dearest reader, when you're told you'd understand certain facts as you grow older, calm down, listen because time unravels truths and helps our understanding. If I was told years go that I'd see reason with Father Amadi, I wouldn't believe. But right now, I know Father Amadi was an angel lol.

Give it time!!!


Ps: to every Kambili out there, give it time! You have no idea just how much is possible, but soon enough you'll find out.


Ciao 


@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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