What if it’s all in your head?

Sooooo, I’m watching this series called Gilmore Girls, and I just love it.

My favorite character is Rory. She’s perfect in an unreal kind of way.

Anyway, Rory did this thing in a recent episode where she had a breakup and somehow made everyone feel like she was the victim, when in truth, she was the cause.

The whole town went on hating an innocent guy for supposedly breaking the heart of a sweet, simple girl, when in reality, she was the one who did the breaking.

It fascinated me because after the breakup, she was so miserable, sad, and depressed. It was easy for people to assume the guy was the bad one just from how she carried herself afterward.

Now here’s the crazy thing, she wasn’t pretending! She was actually going through it, like really going through it.

How does one cause a thing and still suffer unbelievable pain as though they were the victim?

That’s when it hit me.

Yes, we do it too, you and I.

We create stories in our heads, twisting them in ways that make us the victim, and then we start to believe those stories. Once we wear the shoes of the victim, we begin to feel like one, hurt like one, cry like one, and suffer like one.

Just like Rory, we sometimes put ourselves through things, yet act like we aren’t the cause. In pretending, we make ourselves believe we are the victims, and then we end up suffering the same fate a real victim would.

It’s wild because the whole time, it’s been in your head. It didn’t even happen the way you think it did, but somehow, you convinced yourself it did.

Do you see how sometimes we can be the cause of our own misery?

What have you made up in your head lately?

Ask yourself if that event really happened the way you remember it, or if you just built it up in your mind.

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