The Thing About Jealousy




“Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?”
— Proverbs 27:4 (NIV)


Have you ever disliked the main character of a movie? Lol, I have.

So, I’ve been watching this K-drama series recently, and I can’t help but cringe at the absurdity of the lead characters, especially the male lead.

The level of jealousy displayed by this particular character was incredibly alarming and completely unhealthy. Now, jealousy can sometimes come off as cute and is of course part of the human experience. However, when taken to an extreme, it burns fiercer than rage and fury combined.

In trying to wrap my head around where such a damaging level of jealousy comes from, it dawned on me that it often springs from deep-rooted insecurity. Most times, we are jealous because we feel a sense of inadequacy.

For this movie character, it was the thought that he had nothing to offer the girl while the other guy had everything. Hence, an unhealthy level of jealousy. For you, it could be the fear of losing your partner to someone you think is more attractive. It could be the anxiety of seeing a friend succeed in something you’ve been praying for. It could even be feeling left out when people you love start building bonds with others.

Dearest reader, one of my favorite axioms is this: the biggest disservice you can do to yourself is to envy or be jealous of someone you are supposed to learn from or appreciate.

Here’s a wake-up call to examine the things that make you feel overwhelmed with jealousy or envy. Right there lies an insecurity you need to actively work on. Jealousy is the kind of thing that can ruin a person.

Allow me to re-echo King Solomon’s wisdom:
Anger and fury are learners where jealousy is the master.


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