SHITTY MEASURE!

So recently, I made it a goal to write and post my daily content on time. However, I have not been able to keep up. The major reason is that I often have busy mornings and afternoons most of the time, and it's a hassle to get myself to focus while juggling several other things.

Writing in the evenings works for me because I'm well-rested and more focused. Evenings are a time I take a break to evaluate how my day went, cringe at the absurd things I did or said, or scold myself over something. And from this self-evaluation often comes inspiration. The words just flow like water to a stream lol.

Now imagine me trying to force myself to write and post before 5 pm. Crazy much, right?

Everybody is like, "You can do it," "It's very possible."

The truth is, they are right. I could do it. In fact, I did it a couple of times and trust me, I felt fly. However, I realized it wasn't something I could sustain, and this left me feeling defeated.

I’d get sad on days I couldn’t meet this target of posting by 5 pm, and it just felt like too much pressure.

But then I decided to reevaluate this whole goal and I saw a loophole. Yes, I wanted to fly before I could crawl. Given what works for me (evening inspiration), it was a lot to expect myself to write earlier, and worse still, before 5 pm.

So I changed the goal from “post before 5 pm” to “post content early.” I then had to define early as anything before 10 pm. Therefore, if I post by 9:59 pm, I met my goal.

This shift may seem like nothing, but it was quite amazing. I no longer had to feel like I failed just because I posted past 5pm

This made me realize something. Our definitions of things control our happiness.

Weeks back, I would beat myself up over not posting before 5 pm. That could ruin an otherwise perfect day. But now, I don't mind posting at that time. Posting anything before 10 pm is a win for me. Why? What changed? My idea of failure did. I reset my definition of “posting on time.”

Really, life is not supposed to be hard. We are the ones doing too much. Imagine giving yourself unnecessary pressure and calling it a goal. Most of us do pretty amazing things, but our value systems are messed up or our ways of measuring performance are flawed. This prevents us from seeing our capacity in HD.

Dearest reader, how have you decided to measure success and failure?

@favvy_Okwans🖤.