Proverbs 14:10

“Your joy is your own; your bitterness is your own. No one can share them with you.”

There’s nothing as annoying as telling a grieving person, “I understand how you feel.” It’s honestly one of the most insensitive things you could say. You don’t feel their pain. Their pain is unique to them, and you have no idea how deeply it hurts.

I lost someone important today. It was heartbreaking. At first, I was forming hard girl. I went through the day doing everything but thinking about the loss. But the moment I got home, the dam broke.

I wept. At first, I tried to hold it in, but I couldn’t. No words of encouragement could lift the heaviness. Yet, one thing that stood out was my coach telling me, “It’s alright to cry.”

Life happens, and sometimes things go south. But one thing is essential, don’t brush off your pain or pretend it doesn’t hurt. And please, don’t assume you understand the weight of someone else’s grief.

Dearest reader, you may never truly grasp the depth of someone’s pain, just as the next person can't fully understand your pain. However, empathy helps us slip into their shoes, even if briefly, so we can offer comfort. It doesn't mean we’ll ever fully get it... 

So please, in trying to sympathise with someone, don't just say anything.

@favvy_Okwans🖤.