YOUR METRICS



"What is objectively true about your situation is not as important as how you come to see the situation, how you choose to measure and value it."
~ Mark Manson

When I came across the above concept while reading Mark Manson’s book, I was literally blown away by how real and relatable it was.

It explains how two individuals can have the same experience, the same results, yet their interpretation or the way they choose to measure it defines how they feel about it.

My definition of failure and success is very important, as it influences my entire life. For instance, when I wrote my first UTME, I scored 238. To me, this was an epic failure because I had aimed for 316. Meanwhile, a friend of mine scored 209 and was over the moon. He was jumping and dancing and couldn’t understand why I was depressed over what he considered a high score.

Now, what actually happened there?

It’s simply the concept of metrics. We all have certain standards with which we measure our experiences and outcomes. These standards are the reason we’re either happy or disappointed.

The truth about the UTME score is that none of us actually failed, because the average cutoff mark is 200. But that truth wasn’t as important as how each of us chose to see the situation, or how we chose to measure it.

For me, by my metrics, I had failed terribly, and this sent me down a rabbit hole of depression that took me a while to climb out of. That’s how powerful our chosen perspective and metrics can be.

For my friend, by his metrics, he nailed the UTME. He felt intelligent and capable, which boosted his morale and helped him perform even better at the Post-UTME.

So I ask you:
By what standard do you measure success or failure?
Review it. Redesign it.
This could solve half of your depression problems.

Dearest reader, it's important to see failure and success as mere feedback, something you analyze, learn from, and use to plan your next move. Do yourself a favor by choosing better metrics, and watch how much more fulfilling your life becomes.

Sometimes, it’s our unrealistic metrics that keep us stuck in a miserable, unfulfilling life.







@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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