CHRONICLES OF LADY AVA: Emotions And Acknowledgement.



Ava claims that nature’s worst punishment is allowing us to possess feelings we are not allowed to act on, based on what is morally right and wrong.

I get it, though. The average 13-year-old has a crush, wants to go on dates, and does silly things out of curiosity. However, there’s always the "You should know better" banner hanging in the air.

We are raised with the mindset that relationships are some kind of serious sacrilege or sin. But as Lady Ava would often ask, "Why, then, do we possess these feelings at such a premature age?"

For years, I haven’t had a comeback to that question, I still don’t. But I’m certain that the whole idea of sexual purity and morality isn’t about self-denial. Because to deny our impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human.

My boss once said that the person who sees a pretty girl and immediately acknowledges her attractiveness is far better than the one who pretends not to be moved at all. His reason? Whatever we do not acknowledge, we dwell in. The guy who denies his attraction is likely to end up fantasizing about her.

So, what do we do with these feelings? My honest opinion is simple:

1. Understand that emotions are temporary. One moment, I might be over the moon; the next, I could feel like my world is crashing. So, there’s never a need to act rashly, take time to reason things through instead of letting emotions dictate your actions.


2. Don’t shove them down or sweep them under the carpet. Whatever you suppress tends to gain dominance over you. Acknowledge that you, my dear, are not made of wood, you actually feel. And that’s okay. Acknowledgment doesn’t mean giving in; it simply helps you think straight.


3. Conviction matters. Why are you suppressing the feeling? Is it because of personal conviction or religious ideology? Many young Christians struggle here. I used to think God was mad at me for certain thoughts, so I’d try my hardest not to upset Him, abi? While that may seem effective, it’s actually just religious conditioning, something done to fulfill all righteousness. But that’s hardly the way to go.

If you’re fighting the sexual purity war, the first thing you must do is outline why. If your reason is simply because someone told you to, you’ll probably fall. What do you personally believe is right or wrong? What values are you upholding?


4. The God Factor. Ava once told me she gists with God about her crushes, you should try it too. Lol.



XO, COLA


@favvy_Okwansđź–¤. 


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