SAY IT WHEN YOU FEEL IT



There's this crazy thing we do where we deny and try to cover up how we feel. The worst part is how it eventually comes back to bite us.

Denying the existence of something that clearly exists doesn’t make it go away. So, one rule I’ve come to live by is this: Say it when you feel it. When I’m sure something is true, I make it a point to be honest with myself and admit it.

Last night, I was explaining something to a friend of mine, and he said something that hurt me. It felt judgmental, and I didn’t like it. This bothered me the whole night, and it wasn’t until I addressed the issue this morning that I felt some relief.

Imagine if I had kept it bottled up. Without realizing it, I could’ve harbored negative feelings towards him. However, when I brought it up, he explained what he actually meant, and it was far from what I had imagined.

The point is, as Mr. Pojo once said, "Anger stems from ignorance." If you don’t confront or express how you feel, you’ll never know the truth, leaving room for ignorance—and emotions like anger, hatred, and other ugly feelings—to grow.

Did someone get a position you feel you deserved? Don’t pretend to be okay. Admit that it hurt you, even if it’s just to yourself. Did someone’s silly joke get to you? Reach out to the person, seek the closure you need, and hopefully, you’ll realize it wasn’t what you thought. Plus, they’re less likely to treat you that way again.

Dearest reader, traumas often stem from small, untreated hurts, those little pains we sweep under the carpet, leave unacknowledged, or refuse to admit. We must learn to be true to ourselves and communicate how we feel. This helps us avoid accumulating unnecessary emotional baggage.




@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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