WITHOUT INSISTING.
Do you ever feel like when people insist on knowing what's wrong with you on days when you're not your usual self, they’re doing it out of genuine care, or just fulfilling a social obligation? Do they really care, or is it more like, "I don't want it to seem like I'm ignoring your bad mood, so I’ll ask"?
I understand that we shouldn’t generalize—some people do ask because they’re truly worried and care. However, there’s a group of people who ask just to satisfy their curiosity.
Now, the ones I appreciate the most are the people who give you time. Time to process. Time to calm down.
My friend broke down the other day. She started crying so suddenly, and I couldn’t figure out why. I sat beside her and just patted her back. After a while of silence, she calmed down and wiped her tears.
Normally, anyone would have bombarded her with questions about what was wrong, but I let it go. Not because I didn’t care or didn’t want to know, but because I understood that at that moment, she probably wasn’t ready to open up.
Later on, she did speak up and thanked me for not pushing her to talk about it.
Dearest reader, don't be in an hurry to know what's bothering people, if they don't want to talk, understand without insisting. When they are okay enough they'll always talk.
@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.
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