DIFFERENTIATING FAILURE.



Hey there!

How did your day go? I hope you had a great one. As for myself, I had a really relaxing day today. It rained pretty badly this morning, so I overslept, and I was given the day off too.

The highlight of today was meeting a friend at the stadium. We seldom meet there from time to time to talk. I love conversations, plus he's great company.

He told me about a skill he was learning and how badly it flopped, leading him to give up. As he spoke, I saw something oddly familiar and recognized it instantly—a state I was in when my first JAMB result came out. It was a terrible state to have been in. It took my coach a great deal of effort to help me differentiate the failure of a project from the person.

So, I helped him see that he wasn't a failure just because his project failed. Differentiating the project from the person is indeed a task—one we must undertake so as not to misunderstand how this system operates.

I don't believe in people being failures. I have my coach to thank for that (smiles), because I once saw myself as the definition of an epic failure, and it took a lot to make me see differently.

Do you know that moment where you have given your absolute best, the best you can give, and you still fail? It can feel as though you would never get anything right, but I know from experience that at that point it's the project that failed and not the person carrying it out.

Dearest reader, we often make the mistake of equating a failed project to a failed person. You're only truly defeated when you give up. Life happens, and it's always going to happen. So when a course fails, learn to differentiate it from yourself; it will serve you well. Examine the failed project and figure out why it didn't work.



@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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