A BALANCED FEEDBACK.





If you must criticize extensively, you must also applaud efforts just as much.

I believe it's a two-way street. It makes no sense to only point out errors and complain about imperfections while staying silent when efforts are made. It may seem trivial, but acknowledging people’s achievements can have a huge impact. They might be at their breaking point, ready to give up, but commending their successes rather than solely criticizing their mistakes can give them the strength to continue.

Though I've adapted to the idea that my father cannot be pleased, it still gets upsetting when I go above and beyond, outdoing myself, only to have him overlook everything and focus on the 1% error over the 99% perfection. I recall scoring a 98 out of 100 in chemistry during SS2 and being excited to share my good result with my father. All he said was, "Why 98? Is it impossible to get 100? Your siblings have done better." The next term, I scored a 68 and didn’t care anymore.

Truth be told, I don't have an issue with criticism; it sponsors growth. However, if you must criticize, you must also be able to applaud. 

Dearest reader, criticism is valuable—very much so. But when all you do is criticize and never applaud, people might never improve. We must embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly, and communicate all aspects fairly.



@favvy_Okwansđź–¤

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