ANTICIPATION VERSUS RESULT.




"It is the anticipation of a reward—not the fulfillment of it—that gets us to take action," James Clear.

Did you know the anticipation of an experience can often feel better than the attainment?

For me, the two days I hate the most yet anticipate so much are Tuesdays and payday. While Tuesdays are my off days from work, I often anticipate how relaxing and stress-free they'd be, but at the end of the day, I feel even more stressed than I would on a working day. Paydays are just depressing for me because I spend the whole month keeping a list of things I need to get on payday. The anticipation makes me so enthusiastic, but when I'm paid, I instantly feel depressed.

So I wake up every morning fighting the struggle to get out of bed and prepare for work with the anticipation of payday, the same way I get through the week anticipating Tuesday as my day off. I feed myself the delusion that these two days—Tuesdays and paydays—will give the desired results, and this illusion I've created makes me anticipate, which in turn gives me the ability to go on.

Therefore, I've come to derive more joy from the anticipation than the fulfillment of these two days.

Dearest reader, in the words of James Clear: Desire is the engine that drives behavior. Every action is taken because of the anticipation that precedes it. It is the craving that leads to the response.

Can you relate to this? Have you experienced a more exciting anticipation period that doesn't match the result?


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