EMBRACING, YET NOT BECOMING IT.


You see that thing people do, where they become evil because something evil happened to them, I find it quite dumb. 

Don't become your negative experience, transcend it. You begin to live an illusion when you allow the attitude of others or the negative effect of some experience dictate your standards. 

Don't stop being a nice person because someone took advantage of your kindness, instead, take the lesson and then channel your kindness towards something/someone worthwhile. 

If you suffered an heartbreak, don't lock up your heart and turn into something you weren't in the first place because of the pain of recovering. 

Change is good, it's one thing that's constant and it is normal for pain to change you, yet it is wise of you to dictate how it accomplish that. 

Often times, when we change our personalities due to an experience, it is simply allowing our emotions control us rather than move past the hurt from the experience. Don't fool yourself by thinking that in changing your personality negatively after an experience, then you've moved past it or healed from it. 

Dearest reader, let the healing from that heartburn/traumatic experience change you positively and don't allow the pain change you negatively. 

I've seen people go from being the kindest souls to being heartless after an heartbreak, and that's an error. 

Pain can be good and evil, it's dependant on the person's reaction and interaction with it. 

Embrace the pain, don't become the pain. 


@favvy_Okwansđź–¤.

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