DON'T DO GOOD AT YOUR OWN RISK.



There's this story my step mom would usually tell you from time to time. It's a sad story though, it is a story of what constituted to her inability to further her education. 

Growing up she threw her life to give all her siblings the best lives, yet, when they got what they wanted they focused on their lives and forgot her. She gave up every opportunity for her siblings and this was her greatest regret, I feel bad everytime she retells this sad tale. 

The mistake she made was to deprive herself of her goals and dreams and opportunity, for her siblings. Now, doing good isn't the problem, it's okay to do good and help others yet when it is at the expense of yourself it becomes dumb. 

All in the name of being a good person don't neglect yourself or your need. Before removing the scales in someone's eyes first attend to the ones in yours so you can see properly. 

Imagine abandoning your needs to satisfy the needs of others, that's just dumb yet it people's idea, "Good person". Be good to yourself first and then to others. You can't give what you don't have. 

Before you can help other people you must have firstly helped yourself.

"With two people trapped in a pit, one must go up first before helping the other up", X. 


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