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"Work on yourself so that people nuh go walk all over you." ~ Bubu Self-improvement makes you stand out and stand tall. People naturally respect individuals and brands that carry an aura of competence. The difference between old-fashioned and trendy fashion? It's simply innovation. People are drawn to improved quality because it grabs attention. But that person who refuses to grow, who hasn’t taken time to work on themselves? People won’t show them any real regard. We earn respect by the value we place on ourselves. Take gold in its raw ore state, trust me, at that stage, it looks useless. I wouldn’t want anything to do with it. It seems filthy, unrefined, and unattractive. Yet I’d give an arm and a leg for a necklace made of gold. So, what changed? It’s simple: the gold was worked on, refined, and became something worthy of respect, something valuable. But in its raw state, people treat it anyhow. Dearest reader, like the saying above pleads, work on you. Imp...

From being part of the Girl Equip team, if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that excellence is not cheap. Esther Paul would always say, “We’re not doing anything short of excellence,” and true to her words, we all did our best to make sure everything was excellent. Trust me, it was not easy. My whole body still aches from yesterday’s event, yes, that bad. But was it worth it? Absolutely! It was more than worth it. I’ll do it all again, and even better, in a blink of an eye because of the vision. We all want excellence. We all want perfection, at best. But are we ready and willing to give what it takes to get what we want? I highly doubt that. Evolve Conference taught me how to improvise. I had seven people in my team, and three canceled. Trust me, I almost ran mad (lol). And they all canceled a day to the event, some, on the day of the event! It took everything in me to stay calm while figuring out how to work with what I had. That taught me a valuable lesson: always ha...

Today was the Evolve Conference, an event I’ve been anticipating for the longest time. Trust me, it was everything and more. There was so much to learn and plenty of opportunities to meet amazing people. At the end of the event, after a hectic day being part of the team, that was when we finally had time to take pictures. During our photo session, there was this particular girl who was taking our pictures but absolutely refused to take hers. She was shy. But it was fine, because once upon a time, I was like that too, too shy to take a photo alone, mainly because I fel t like everyone around was watching me. I remember one time I was avoiding taking pictures again, but Lady Ava refused to let me be. She insisted she knew how much I loved photos (I do). Ava was like, “Favour, why are you shy?” Omor, I told her we were in public and I didn’t want all that attention. And then she asked me to look around and see if anybody actually cared to look in my direction. Funny enough, wh...

"Fix your ass, let's meet at the top." ~ Mr. Paul I read somewhere that relationship math is when two people, both individually 100%, come together to become one. The idea is that we are whole before we come together. One common misconception we’ve normalized is expecting a relationship to make us feel whole or fill in where we feel insufficient. Research says this is one of the reasons why relationships often don’t work out. Being 100% means you're emotionally, mentally, and financially stable. So when you come together, you're not trying to fix anyone’s baggage or “fix their ass.” You've both reached a level of stability, and now, the focus is on building, raising the bar, and doing more. Dearest reader, people often ask, "When am I ready to be in a relationship?" The answer is simple: when you're at 100%. When you're stable enough. When you’ve dealt with those childhood traumas so you don’t bleed on those who didn’t cut you, bu...

"Only the future will show if the past was worth it, because the present makes it feel like it was all for nothing." ~ X There’s something about the present and the future. When we look at the present, it feels like nothing is changing or everything is just the same. But when we think back to how things used to be, we realise so much has changed, and quite dramatically too. I like to call that the trick time plays on us. The small things we do every day may seem little or even pointless, but over time, when we look back, their impact is truly surprising. That’s the point of the quote above. When we’re building, when we’re climbing, it can feel like we’re not making any progress. Like our lives are stuck, and all our efforts are in vain. But remember, things are hardly ever what they seem. Dearest reader, keep moving, keep growing, keep learning. Like the saying goes, the journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step. In time, everything will make sense. @f...

At times, our purpose drops into our laps as if the heavens threw it down by accident. Do you ever find yourself so shaken up by responsibilities that you have no choice but to rise to the occasion? Today, my best friend Lee sent a long voice note, explaining her day down to the very last detail. It was fun listening to her rant about the bundle of responsibilities and duties she’s been assigned. I felt so proud hearing how well she’s been handling everything. I had to remind her that she’s more than capable of managing all that’s been placed on her shoulders. The idea that God gives His toughest battles to His strongest soldiers is no cliché. You may not look the part, but within you lies infinite capability to carry whatever you're given. Funny enough, you hardly ever feel ready or good enough for these kinds of responsibilities. But you say yes! And in the process of trying, you find yourself growing and learning. So, dearest reader, like I told Lee today, don’t take any opportu...