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YOUR ABILITIES ARE NOT FIXED.

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One of the most amazing things about humans is that we are constantly evolving every day, whether intentionally or unintentionally. We are always becoming, growing or even declining. We cannot be static. This means our lives are dynamic and always in motion. Because of this, there are so many possibilities available to us. We can learn, unlearn and relearn. That my dear, is a really big deal. So as long as we are still alive, we are open to countless possibilities. We cannot say “I cannot do this”, “I do not know this”, or “I do not measure up”. No darling, you are becoming. You can always become the kind of person who can, who knows and who measures up. Your abilities are not fixed. It takes a lot of work, I will not lie, but I am telling you, you can become so much more if you truly want it and are willing to pay the price. Dearest reader, I like to think, or rather wire my mind to believe that life is fair. Whatever I want to become, I can become. I can learn how to learn. I can lea...
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Dearest reader, so I just finished this book and it was amazing, anyways I decided to share the review with you, tell me what you think?                                **** Read the book "Broken" by Fatima Bala for the second time and what do I have to say? There are people, and then there is Ahmed Babangida 😭 My bubugaga argued that Fa’iza did not deserve Ahmed because she gave up on them that easily, and really I didn’t see it like that the first time I went through the book, hence the rereading. My girl fought the best she could o. There are certain things you do not fight. In as much as it may seem like she gave up easily, the possibility of things going in their favor at that point was less than 1 and that’s just heartbreaking. What’s there to fight? Fa’iza was raised with structure, faith, fear of Allah, and a clear idea of what was right and wrong. Ahmed on the other hand was love in human form, reck...
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So I recently created a particular content type, it was my first in this niche, so I sent it to some of my friends and I was complaining about how it seemed less than perfection and she said something that stayed with me. She was like “the imperfect bits are what makes it content” and it clicked. The minute I crave perfection over enjoying the very thing I do, it becomes a chore and loses its magic. We have come to worship doing things perfectly. A poet I love would say no moment is ever perfect or completed because no one truly wants to be finished. Growth hates finality.  That was when I thought about idea capital. Idea capital is not how polished your work is. It is not how flawless the delivery sounds or how clean the output looks. It is the courage to put your ideas out there while they are still breathing. It is choosing movement over mastery. It is trusting that ideas grow value when they are expressed, not when they are hidden and overworked in your head. Every time you wai...
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Maybe it's you and not them Have you ever taken a minute to think that maybe it's you and not them? This thing called blame shifting is so easy, it becomes second nature especially when accountability is lacking. Adam and Eve can attest because honestly, that was one very swift blame shift. We often do this thing where we point fingers everywhere else except inward. We blame the system, the people around us, our upbringing, our friends, our timing. Sometimes all of that may be true, but sometimes the real issue is our refusal to look at ourselves honestly. It is easier to call people wicked than to admit we ignored red flags. It is easier to say they hurt us than to admit we stayed longer than we should have. It is easier to say nobody supports us than to admit we never showed up consistently for ourselves. Growth is uncomfortable because it asks hard questions. Questions like what role did I play here? What patterns do I keep repeating? What lessons am I avoiding? Accountabili...
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A LITTLE BIT OF SPONTANEITY...

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I was sleeping today when I got a crazy idea. And if you know me, you would know that I come up with new ideas every day. Ideas that I never get done or follow through on. So before I had the chance to overthink myself out of it, I stood up and did it. It was far from perfect, but I had promised myself that I was done fantasizing about certain things. I had no excuses, because if I waited a while, my brain would definitely come up with a very valid reason not to do it. Doing is an extension of you. It is an expression of your being. So when we are not ready to do, it simply means we have not yet become the kind of person who can do. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Now imagine the heart lacks the abundance of a certain thing. It would be impossible and unauthentic to express it. Yet, we want abundance first before we take the first step. We want perfection. We want the right timing. And all of this only keeps stretching the moment further away. Dearest reader, every...
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“There are some sins you are not committing right now simply because you cannot afford them.” KU There is something about exposure. It reveals parts of you that you never knew existed. Sometimes the reason you do not act a certain way or do certain things is not because you are completely upright or a good person, but because those qualities and tendencies in you have not had the opportunity to show themselves. The moment the opportunity lands, boom, everything changes. That is why people say never say it can never be you. The way it will be you might shock you and leave you struggling to recover. My boss always says the loyalty of a poor man is only proven when he tastes a degree of wealth. If he is still loyal when he no longer needs you or fears losing you, then he is truly loyal. Dearest reader, before you beat your chest and say you cannot do a thing, be able to afford it first. In the words of Pojomatics, a truly good man is one who has tasted the borders of evil and then decided...
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I sat in an office today and the first thing I was asked was this; "If you had one minute with Dangote in an elevator, what business would you pitch to him and how would you do it?" I laughed a bit because it caught me off guard. Not because I did not know what to say, but because I was not expecting the question at all. What surprised me the most was how fast the answer came, I did not have to think too hard. It was not perfect, but it was honest. I knew what I wanted to talk about, i knew the idea I would mention, I knew the direction I would take, even if it still needs work. Afterwards, the man asking the question said something that stayed with me. He said he asks that question often and many people struggle with it. Not because they are not smart, but because they have never paused to think about themselves that way. And it made me think. Maybe growth does not always look like having everything figured out. Sometimes it looks like having a rough idea. I am n...
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