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“Your worth is not a measure of your outcome.” I’ve had to remind myself of this more than ever this season, because there’s this project that has been messing with my head. You know that moment when you know you can do so much better, but somehow all you keep producing is average? So you start again, change strategy, try a new approach… and with each attempt, it feels like you’re getting worse instead of better. Yes. That has been my week. And it almost made me mistake my repeated inability to get it right as a measure of my self worth. So I had to pause and remind myself: I didn’t fail, the project did. My coach would always say it, that I must learn to separate myself from the project. But if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that it’s not always easy. The line between “I failed” and “this failed” is thin, and the confusion is subtle. One minute you’re just trying to fix a task, the next minute you’re questioning your entire capacity. And that kind of doubt is crippling. Dearest r...
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It’s the way people rate me, because omor… sometimes I’m genuinely scared of the pedestal my friends place me on. Like yes, I know I’m an impressive young person, but I’m literally still an average teenager. (Maybe not so average, but you get the point.) So I’m participating in a poetry contest. The task is simple: record a poem and submit it. Now, I already had a poem. A really good one, if I do say so myself. The last time I posted it, it got a lot of applause and people could relate to it, so I decided to use that same poem. I made the video, but I wasn’t feeling it, so I made another video, same poem, same vibe. Still, something felt off. That was when I consulted a friend, and she told me it didn’t sound like me. Then she said, and I quote: “This poem sounds lost. You’re Favour Okwanyionu, you’re anything but lost.” And in my head I was like… “Na so you rate me?” i’m anything but lost, ke?  But it genuinely got me thinking, and it pushed me to consider writing something that f...
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I saw a funny status and it read, “If wishes were horses, everybody for don turn rider.” It was both funny and real. Not because everyone is a beggar, but because everyone has needs. And honestly, if wishes were that easy, we’d all gladly hop on that wishing ride, you get? Lol. The one thing I love about dreams is the audacity they give you. In your dream world, you can do anything, become anything, and have just about anything. But the actualisation of that dream is where the real work lies. Because anybody can dream, but the people who actually get their dreams go beyond fantasy. Before any idea materialises, it passes through certain stages: imagination, mental work, and real work. Imagination is the fantasy stage, where everything is possible, easy, and feasible. Mental work is when you move beyond vibes and actually analyse the dream, figure out how it can work, and maybe even put it on paper. Then comes the real work, the part where you show up and start doing. But most times, ou...
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You guysssssss I can’t believe I sat through 6 season of How to Get Away with Murder, I’m not done though but I’m pretty close to done Here’s one crazy twist that happened that I can’t just get over, so background story; My woman, Annalise Keating spent the past 3 years covering her students murders, being a really good lawyer, she helped them get away with the impulsive silly murders they committed, because she didn’t want them to go to jail, you get right? Now the whole thing blows over, and the FBI catches wind of these murders but no concrete evidence because she has had almost everything buried, however she’s the one connection with every single murder, and hence they came up with a conspiracy to tie everything to her. And omor, I’d be lying if I said I was surprised that the so-called students she took as her kids turned on her, to save their asses, because that’s just the human thing to do. Not everybody is Annalise Keating Initially I was so pissed at them for taking a deal tha...
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Merry New Month.

  Did you know today is April 1st? Yes o, April Fool’s Day. A few years ago, this day used to be one of the most unserious days of the year. People would wake up with mischief in their spirit, ready to prank their friends, shout “APRIL FOOL!” and laugh like nothing else mattered. There'll be people planning, their prank for a year, or even months, the disappointment when they don't fall for it and the absolute joy when they do. My favourite prank has got to be that seemingly love letter that starts off as "There's something I've been meaning to ask you", stalls for a long time talking about everything else and ends with something silly like "how much is cabin biscuit in your age", top notch epic.  Everybody used to catch cruise. But now, look around. Everywhere is just quiet. No pranks. No silly jokes. No “I’m relocating tomorrow” message. No fake engagement announcement. Nothing. Everybody is just walking around like “life don serious pass April foo...
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Sometimes, life teaches you a lesson in the most painful way. Not because something is impossible, but because you simply didn’t prepare enough. One thing I’ve come to realize is this: just because something worked once, doesn’t mean it will work again. You know that feeling when you escape a situation and you’re like, “Wow, I survived”? And instead of learning from it, you repeat the same mistake because you think the outcome will still favour you. That’s exactly how many people treat preparation. You manage to pass one time with last minute efforts, and suddenly you start believing that last minute is your “method.” But the truth is, the first time wasn’t strategy. It was grace. And expecting grace to keep covering laziness is not faith, it’s taking advantage. Know what's better? Consistency Because the pain of knowing you could have done better is one of the worst kinds of pain. Not because you failed, but because you know the result didn’t match your potential. So if you’re ent...
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CHRONICLES OF LADY AVA: THIS THING CALLED SALVATION

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Long time, no Ava abi? Let’s gooooo! Me and Ava were having a conversation some days ago, and I casually mentioned that I’ve never spoken in tongues before. This girl was genuinely shocked. “Favour, seriously??” And I’m like, “Yeah na… what’s up?” Then she said something that made me laugh, because it sounded so dramatic. She said, and I quote: “It’s still a mystery to me how I’m able to speak in tongues and some people like you can’t, with all my bad thoughts.” And I just started laughing because… people like me ke? But honestly, her statement is the reality of many believers. A lot of us don’t feel worthy of salvation, or worthy of the gifts of the Spirit, so we assume that if we’re not “holy enough” or “clean enough,” God won’t use us or bless us. But this is what I told Ava. The thing about gifts is that you don’t have to deserve them before you receive them. A gift is not something you earn, it’s something you’re given. And spiritual gifts are not rewards for good beha...
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