Favvy_Okwans🖤

Many times we choose career paths, follow what is popular, and live by other people's expectations instead of asking what truly matters to us. We pick what is trendy, not what feels right. Someone reached out to me today asking my opinion about the course she wants to study. After asking a few questions, we discovered she did not really want medicine. She loved the idea of it. She loved the title, the respect, the story people tell about doctors. I could relate. I once wanted to study medicine more than anything. It drove me and kept me going. But after trying for a while, I realised I did not actually want it. I wanted the idea of it. The fame and the title were louder than the reality. If I had been given admission back then, it would have been torture, an unnecessary path. We are often hypocrites when we choose. By hypocrite I do not mean what you first think. I like how Mr Pojo defines it. He says hypocrisy is claiming something without thinking through the implications. Go ask...

Yes, there’s something called sleep writing. It’s when your body is so exhausted that you keep drifting off to sleep mid-sentence, and for people like me, you wake right up and continue like nothing happened. Why do you bother at this point? You might ask. I believe that when something is truly important to you, you’ll find a way to keep doing it. One of the major ingredients for consistency is the level of importance you tie to the task. So yes, I feel tired and just want to sleep at this moment. However, would I feel proud if I allowed this moment of fatigue to break my writing consistency? Hell no. I’d be pissed at myself. That’s why I even bother, it’s like I owe it to myself. And most importantly, life doesn’t work in sync with how I feel. At the upper echelon of life, it’s not really about emotions or moods. Like we say, life nuh send anybody papa. Dearest reader, do it tired, do it sad, do it sleepy, just do it anyway. If it matters to you, get it done however you feel. Being su...

I once read somewhere, “You cannot solve a problem at the same level as the problem,” and it’s one of those lines that stay with you long after you’ve read them.  The more I think about it, the more I realize how true it is. You can’t fix something while standing in the same place where it broke. You can’t rise while still reasoning from the same level that pulled you down. It’s almost like life invites us to climb, to think higher, to shift our eyes from what’s happening to what’s actually going on. The Hebrews had this powerful belief: “as above, so below.” It wasn’t just a saying, it was a way of seeing the world. They understood that the higher realm, rules the lower. Whatever is established above naturally finds expression below. It’s not the earth dictating to heaven; it’s heaven shaping the earth. The invisible commands the visible.  So maybe the real work is to focus on aligning what’s inside you with what you want to see outside.  That’s why prayers, declarations...

Do you also do that thing where you give God a timeline? Like you tell Him, “Before this date, I want this to happen,” and if it doesn’t, you just give up on hoping for it? That was me. I was hoping really hard for two things to happen during the period of FOH. It was one of my major prayer requests throughout the 50-day program. One of them happened, but the other one didn’t look like it ever would. So when FOH ended, I just rested my case. A literal resignation. Imagine my shock and joy today when it finally happened. I had already given up and removed my mind from the possibility entirely. Dearest reader, God is never late. He does not work by our timelines. Sometimes, He waits until your faith has gone quiet, just to remind you that He never forgot. What is that one thing you are still waiting on? Don’t limit God with deadlines or your own idea of “when.” I now see how silly that was, trying to rush the One who holds time itself. Trust His timing. He always comes throug...

One thing I’ll never understand in Kdramas and American teen movies is the thing they do where two people are having a confrontation, and one person pours out their heart, could be in an apology, a love confession, or something, and waits for the other person to respond, but then the other person says nothing or denies the very obvious. At this point, I’d feel like actually getting into the movie and giving them a big slap, a loud resounding slap. Now, they will not stop there. Instead, there will be this unnecessary drama of coming to the realization that they didn’t mean the earlier silence or denial or non-agreement, so they decide that what is best is running after the person they already hurt by their earlier action. (Which I think is unnecessary because you’ve already hurt the person, so what’s the point?) Now, as they do the rubbish chase and an even more rubbish confession at the point of meeting the person, I’m just vexed. Because this very thing has been in plain sight the wh...

My coach would always re-echoe, he'll be like, "Favour, Life doesn't go your way, life goes the way". Now, where we have issues is when our ways are not in alignment with "The Way", hence, life becomes, or rather seems unfair.  So really when things goes south, we should ask ourselves, "What am I doing wrong?"  We may just be lost in doing things our way, and expecting things to just go that way, whereas, neglecting the way things should be done. Dearest reader, yes life is tough, but guess who is tougher? You!  The point is, life becomes a lot less stressful when you let go of your way, and seek to know, learn and embrace it way.  Selah! @favvy_Okwans🖤.