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CAPITALISING ON YOUR STRENGTH

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I read somewhere that if you go out looking for faults, all you’ll see are simply faults and everything wrong. The idea is that there will always be flaws, weaknesses, and shortcomings. However, to save yourself from a lot of heartbreak, look at the bright sides of things, capitalise on what worked out, and draw strength from them. Today was hectic for me. In fact, this whole week has been a lot, especially today, because it was the big deal. As we prepared for the day’s event, it almost felt like the universe was against us. The plans kept falling through, and everyone was panicking. But then I said, “Come on, we did some good today,” and started counting the things that worked out. Funny enough, the things that worked out outweighed the ones that didn’t. We just couldn’t see it at first because we were too fixated on what didn’t go as planned. Dearest reader, sometimes it’s not that things are entirely bad. It’s that you’ve been looking too long at what failed to notice w...
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WHO TOLD YOU?

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"The label people give you and the experience you let label you is one of the easiest ways to lose your God given identity." ~X What have you been told about yourself? "I'm too much" Who told you? "I'm a failure" What page in the Bible is that written? "I'm ugly" You mean the you that was created in God's image and likeness? Come on na! What labels are we taking on? What labels are we allowing to limit us? The thing is, people will always label you, call you things, but you get to decide what name you accept and answer to. I read somewhere that the mark of an intelligent man is his ability to assess information without accepting it. Dearest reader, learn to differentiate events or experiences from your being, because our experiences tend to give us labels. Oga, you did not fail, it’s the project that failed. Here’s a wake up call to reevaluate what you’ve been told about yourself over the years, and the labels you’ve come to accep...
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"YOU TALK TOO MUCH" KE?

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Growing up, I was told I talk too much. My parents believed I would either end up a lawyer or a mass communicator because I talk! Even as a child, my constant disturbance knew no end. However, as I grew older, if there’s one insult that never got to me, it was “Favour, you talk too much!” Do you know why? I knew! From day one, I had been told I talk a lot. I went home with report cards that read, “She talks a lot.” So there’s no way you could get me to feel bad about my talkative nature. It got even better when I learned that my surname, in literal terms, means “There’s nothing the mouth cannot say.” So, as someone tries to tear me down for being loud, I’m unbothered, anchored by a degree of knowing. I would even go as far as telling the person that my surname suggests I can’t be quiet, and just like that, they would back off. Now, it’s funny how this same person would almost hit depression if she was insulted from another angle. If you so much as mentioned that I looked fat in school,...
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"Evolution requires shedding what no longer fits who you are becoming" ~ X In this journey of becoming, there's the place of pruning. The point where growth demands that you let go of things that no longer serve the person you’re evolving into. Sometimes it’s habits, other times it’s people, comfort zones, or even versions of yourself you once celebrated. Sometimes it looks like punishment, but really, it's the becoming in view, the journey from here to the vision, what it requires. It’s God’s way of shaping you for more, trimming the excess so fruit can grow. It’s the process of correction, breaking, and redirection that looks like loss but is really love. Dearest reader, don’t fight your pruning season. I know it hurts, I know it feels unfair sometimes, but trust me, nothing that leaves your life in this season was meant to stay. Let it go. Let God prune, and watch what beauty blossoms from your obedience. @favvy_Okwansđź–¤.
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"There’s a way you stay in the place of becoming, and result begins to show up",  Sometimes, it’s not about chasing opportunities everywhere, it’s about staying ready where you are. I read somewhere that it’s preparedness that attracts opportunity, and honestly, I’ve seen that play out in real life. Opportunities lands in the laps of the prepared, you cant be expectant a void of preparation.  You see those seasons when it feels like nothing is happening? That’s where everything is quietly forming. The more you lean into growth, discipline, and intentionality, the more life starts aligning in your favor. It’s funny how we often want results without realizing that the process itself is what builds the capacity to handle the result. Dearest reader, so stay in your becoming. Keep showing up, even when nobody claps. Keep learning, keep stretching, keep doing your part. Because when the time is right, your preparation will introduce you before you even speak. @favvy_Okw...
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Thin line between diplomacy and deception

"Diplomacy without evaluated truth is just weak positive confession, and that is evil", X I have always been big on this saying, “If you must air your opinion about something sensitive, learn diplomacy.” But today, I encountered a school of thought that made me think differently. Let me straighten this out. Is there a line between diplomacy and deceit? Because the moment you start hiding truth in the name of diplomacy, it becomes manipulation. Let me use an instance. Recently, I wrote this poem completely in pidgin English. It is not my usual style and I was breaking character, so before posting, I sent it to a few friends. Now, trust Nomzy to hype me. After all the hype, I was just waiting to hear what she honestly thought after evaluating it. Her words, “It feels a bit stiff, like ajebota trying to speak pidgin,” were her diplomatic way of saying the poem was good, but the pidgin did not slap so well. Did you see that? Evaluated truth + Diplomacy = good. Falsehood + Diploma...
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What are you deciding to learn?

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Do you know that every day, we unconsciously learn things? As we go about our daily lives, we’re constantly learning new things without even realizing it. Most times, it’s shaped by our environment, media consumption, and the world around us. But truth is, it’s not always great. In fact, many of our wrong, unhealthy, or even immoral behaviors come from these unconscious influences. In psychology, this is called Implicit Learning, it happens when you pick up patterns, habits, or knowledge without being consciously aware that you’re learning. For example, you might start speaking with a certain accent or tone because everyone around you does. Or you may begin to respond to stress the same way your parents did, even though you never decided to. It’s “learning without trying.” Your brain quietly absorbs cues, behaviors, and rules from your surroundings. Now, in a world where we’re constantly learning subconsciously, here’s a question to ponder: Are you being intentional about what you lear...
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