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There is this beautiful thing about nature or maybe life itself. Have you ever had a thought and then suddenly you see it show up in real time? You think of calling someone and they call you. You make a mental note to text someone and they reach out first. It almost feels like everything is quietly aligned, like the universe is breathing in the same rhythm as you. I love to call it being in sync. It is one of my favourite mysteries of life because it feels gentle and intentional, like life paying attention. And yet, there is a soft logic to it too. When someone is already on your mind, your heart and attention are tuned to them.  Your brain connects the dots faster because your attention was already there. It is not magic exactly, but it is not nothing either. There is this person my coach has been urging me to meet since I travelled. I had thought about reaching out several times but there was this quiet reluctance I could not explain. Still, he stayed on my mind. Then this aftern...

Merry Weekend As my first weekend in Benin, my roommate and I decided to go for a little sightseeing, and it was really fun. For someone that hates busy cities, I surprisingly enjoyed the hurriedness everyone here possesses. The air felt alive, and the sight of people constantly moving up and down the streets was oddly comforting. But the buses? Nah. Not cool at all. These guys drive like they have nine lives, especially when they are trying to escape traffic by entering alternative roads. You will just be covering yourself with the blood of Jesus up and down, because it is never a smooth ride. Being here has been a cultural shift, something I have looked forward to so eagerly for a while now. You know how you get comfortable with certain things simply because that is what you are used to, like the sameness of my childhood environment and everything that came with it. I like to say that each city has its own air. As I looked at the buses one more time and stole a glance at a beautiful ...

“In the future, personal branding will be less about curating a perfect persona and more about embracing the authentic self.” On today’s chapter review of the book Personal Branding by Kenrick Urhefe. (A little backstory, in case you are wondering why I am talking about this book. I took on a personal challenge to read one chapter every week and write my reflections on it. So far, it has been an amazing read, and I would honestly recommend it to anyone who is serious about personal branding, standing out on social media, and building a strong and formidable brand.) Chapter 8, which is the final chapter of the book, focuses on the future of personal branding. According to this chapter, the future of personal branding will move away from one size fits all marketing tactics. Instead, individuals will begin to create hyper targeted content for niche audiences, content that speaks directly to their specific needs, desires, and realities. This chapter explores several interesting concepts su...

What trauma has made you so afraid to ask for help just because you feel it would inconvenience others? I was scrolling through Instagram today after a very tiring day, just trying to rest my brain, and that was how I stumbled on a post by Eric Gugua about asking for extensions. And honestly, it felt like a direct attack. He shared a story about a friend who was scared to ask for an extension because she did not want to inconvenience the other person. After a lot of internal struggle, she finally asked, and guess what, it was granted without stress. Imagine that. She could have kept quiet and inconvenienced herself over something that simple asking could have solved. And omor, that is exactly me. I am very shy when it comes to asking. I would rather suffer quietly than ask for help. It is strange, but I always feel like I have to exhaust every single option first before I open my mouth. But the Bible says, “Ask and it shall be given to you.” If you are not asking, what exactly are you ...

“The obstacle isn’t in the way, it is the way” ~ X We like to get around problems. We try to fix things by avoiding them, by pretending they do not exist, or by wishing they would just disappear. We want the smooth road, the easy exit, the quick escape. But what if that is not the way forward at all? What if the very thing standing in front of you is not meant to be removed, but understood? What if the challenge you are facing is not supposed to pass away, but you are the one meant to pass through it. Slowly. Honestly. With lessons in your hands and growth in your heart. Some seasons refuse to move until they have done their work in us. This too shall not pass away until you go through it. Sit with that for a moment. We do not heal by running. We do not become stronger by avoiding discomfort. We fix things by facing them head on, by showing up even when we are scared, and by trusting that God is doing something deeper than what our eyes can see. There is shaping in the resi...

You see that thing they say where they go like “May God meet you at the point of your need”, the next time you hear it please shout a louder amen. Because mehn!!! when God shows up he really shows up. At that exact point where it feels like there is no way forward, no strength left and no solution in sight. That point where you have tried everything you know and you are tired of trying. That is where He loves to step in. It is always so beautiful the way He works. Quietly sometimes, unexpectedly most times. One moment you are overwhelmed, and the next moment help shows up from nowhere.  Sometimes you are distressed and worried thinking of all the things that could go wrong. Your heart is heavy, your mind is restless and you keep asking God when. But somehow He shows up right on time. Not early, not late just perfectly timed. And when you look back you realise that delay was not denial. It was alignment. God meeting you at the point of your need is not just a nice prayer or a sweet ...