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FAIl AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

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I read somewhere that if you’ve failed at a couple of times, then you’ve gained the opportunity to discover what doesn’t work. And honestly, that’s already progress. Because once you know what doesn’t work, you’re automatically getting closer to what does. It’s like this annoying game my sister plays, a kind of guessing game. The more wrong answers you give, the easier it becomes to find the correct one, because every failure eliminates an option. And before you know it, you’re left with only the right answer. That’s exactly how life works too. Dearest reader, fail as much as possible. Failing builds something inside you that success cannot teach you quickly: resilience, wisdom, patience, strategy, and thick skin. It teaches you how to start again without losing yourself. It forces you to grow muscles you didn’t even know you needed. And truly, I think failing is one of the biggest signs that you’re doing something meaningful. Because you can’t fail at what you never tried. As a peopl...
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You guyssssssssss I’ve been pushing myself to do a set of videos recently and omor, it has been a lot because it’s a new niche, but God is helping me. I think yesterday was day one and I recorded this same video saying the same thing like 50 times. I’m not even exaggerating. I kept recording until it felt right. I recorded so much that my cheeks began to hurt and I was literally tired of smiling. And then we go again today, but guess what? I attempted today’s videos and I recorded 25 times before finally seeing the one that felt right. And it was nice. What stood out for me from these experiences were two things. First, my ability to keep trying again. I was tired of talking, but after watching what I just did, I’d feel like “this can be done better” and I’ll do it again and again and again. For someone that doesn’t like stress and is quick to give up, it has been a stretch. And it made me think of how it’s not even about how difficult a thing is, it’s about how passionate you are to k...
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YOUR IDEA IS NOT SPECIAL.

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Every day, I wake up with at least one idea in my head. It’s hilarious, but it’s true. Maybe it’s the overthinker complex in me, but I’m always thinking of what I can do and visualising it. And I visualise it so well that it almost feels like a superpower. But here’s the funny part. Out of 100% of the ideas I get, I only write down like 5%. And out of that 5%, I probably act on just 3%. That is actually wild. Sometimes, before I even get around to implementing an idea, someone else has already done it. Boom. I get discouraged. And just like that, the idea dies in my head, unsponsored and unexecuted. But here’s what I’ve learned so far: your idea is not special. My ability to randomly generate ideas is not unique. It’s not rare. It’s not even impressive. It’s just… normal. The way King Solomon said in Ecclesiastes that there’s nothing new under the sun, yeah, he wasn’t joking. There’s nothing new about your plans. As you’re thinking it, someone else is already implementing it. As you’re...
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THE BODY REMEMBERS.

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One of the best things that has happened to me this year so far is going through Pastor Irene Emmanuel’s 100 Days of Discipleship crash course on YouTube. Honestly, it was its own kind of epic. I started from day one and kept going, and before I knew it, it became part of my daily routine. A day wouldn’t pass without me watching at least one video. It was really nice. It felt like it became a part of me. Around that same time in school, I was trying to stick to a workout routine, but because I know myself and my laziness, I decided to apply James Clear’s “habit stacking” idea. It’s basically pairing something you enjoy with something you want to be consistent in. So I grew to love the daily videos so much that whenever it was time to watch “my video of the day,” I used it as an opportunity to work out alongside it. You see the trick? Brilliant. And it worked like magic. Since I had to watch a video daily, it automatically meant I had to work out daily too. No excuses. No negotiation. W...
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FOREVER IN NUMBERED DAYS.

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“Don’t promise me a forever when you’re not sure of tomorrow.” ~ X I read somewhere that we don’t really understand the promises we make when we make them. And honestly, it’s true. Trust time, it will unravel the full weight of what you casually committed to. I’m the most optimistic person I know when it comes to friendship. Don’t I carry it in my head like government work? Don’t I plan my life with my friends right inside it? But the older I grew, the more the words of my bubugaga began to resonate. Life will happen. Friendships will break. And you will survive it. So yes, I’ve lost people I once couldn’t even imagine life without. I’ve moved on from the best of mates. I’ve mourned the distance between me and people I couldn’t do without at a point. And more than anything, I’ve held tightly to the friendships I still have, nurturing them, staying. But here’s the thing. Forever is infinity. It’s uncountable. And like Hazel Grace Lancaster from The Fault in Our Stars said, some infiniti...
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I had a conversation with my coach today. It has been forever since we last spoke and honestly, it was epic. He was there at a time in my life when I really needed a guide, and his presence made a huge difference. I may not have it all figured out, but the gift of access, the gift of people? Leave that one for me. It’s kind of my unfair advantage. I have shoulders I get to climb on every season, people who pour into me and impact my growth. That is one thing I’m eternally grateful to God for. That conversation had me thinking back to the beginning, the little girl who was daring enough to meet him. The shy, defensive, difficult girl. Oga even said I taught him patience. I was that much. Lol. And it made me realize something. Sometimes, we fix our gaze so much on the work left to do, the journey ahead, and how far our goals still seem, that we forget we’ve come far too. We’ve done really impressive work. We’ve outgrown certain things. We’ve learned so much. We’ve become a version of our...
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I had a conversation with my coach today. It has been forever since we last spoke and honestly, it was epic. He was there at a time in my life when I really needed a guide, and his presence made a huge difference. I may not have it all figured out, but the gift of access, the gift of people? Leave that one for me. It’s kind of my unfair advantage. I have shoulders I get to climb on every season, people who pour into me and impact my growth. That is one thing I’m eternally grateful to God for. That conversation had me thinking back to the beginning, the little girl who was daring enough to meet him. The shy, defensive, difficult girl. Oga even said I taught him patience. I was that much. Lol. And it made me realize something. Sometimes, we fix our gaze so much on the work left to do, the journey ahead, and how far our goals still seem, that we forget we’ve come far too. We’ve done really impressive work. We’ve outgrown certain things. We’ve learned so much. We’ve become a version of our...
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