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Reality vs Idea

Recently, I took a video editing course. It was fun, and I learned new editing tricks and concepts. But then I had to implement them. So yesterday, I recorded one of my written poems and decided to singlehandedly edit it into something worthy of posting on Instagram. My dear! The next time you see a video editor, please give them a thumbs up. Let’s even leave the editing part first, there was the recording! I wrote this poem, but my facial expressions were giving all the wrong vibes. After shooting over 20 videos, I finally decided to edit one. I did the basic edits. It was stressful but going well. Then boom, I got to the part where I needed a soothing background sound. I searched and searched. It was so frustrating. Nothing was working. I gave up a million and one times. Dearest reader, I won’t lie to you. Till now, I haven’t completed editing the video (I'll share it once I’m done), and it’s not even up to one minute long. This experience has made me appreciate art more. There a...
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Anger can be a weapon or a shield.

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Today was a fun one for me. I had a couple of experiences, but the best part was hanging out with my sister. As we chatted, I had to fill her in on everything that had been going on since the last time we had a proper one-on-one conversation. I was sharing a particular incident with her, something that really got me enraged, when she asked a question that took me aback. She said, "Beyond the anger and hate, do you absolutely think nothing else is there?" That question got me thinking. I once read somewhere: "Anger is a potent spice; a pinch wakes you up, but too much dulls your senses." The thing about rage is that it consumes. It consumes you so deeply that all you see is what’s directly in front of you, and to only see what's in front of you is, essentially, to be blind. Sometimes we get angry at things and use that anger as an excuse to shield and hide our true feelings or thought processes about the situation. Dearest reader, remember: a pinch wa...
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CHRONICLES OF LADY AVA: It isn’t what it is.

There's this popular phrase we often use casually or without thinking much of it, “It is what it is.” But Ava doesn’t agree with it. One day, she addressed it and said, “It isn’t what it is; instead, it is what we make it.” Saying or believing “it is what it is” is like programming your mind to take things as they come, surrendering your life to chance or luck. Yes, we may be minute in the grand scheme of things, but we are not nothing. Our actions and inactions shape our lives. Let’s not forget that a large percentage of our experiences are consequences of our own decisions. But it's human nature to shrug off the role we played and easily push the blame to someone else, or in this case, the universe. Dearest reader, allow me to resound this: It isn’t what it is, it is what we make it. What we consciously or unconsciously make of our reality, the decisions we take while considering the ripple effects and all that comes with them. We make our reality. We shape our experiences. @...
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"How are you handling it?"

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Recently, I was talking to a friend about something tragic I went through, and he asked me, "How's your mental health handling it atm?" Omor, I weak! I hadn’t thought about that before. And it got me thinking about how quickly we want to move on from things, how fast we want to get it over with, which in turn leads us to handle it poorly. In my head, I was like, "Handling it ke?" Me that ran away from the hurt until it circled back to me on a random afternoon at a close-up dead end. I read somewhere that pain demands to be felt. If it doesn’t hurt, then it's not pain. So this running away from confronting hurt is just a delay. Dearest reader, how are you handling things? How did you handle the last time you went through something that could break someone? That thing we do where we avoid, run away, or cover up pain with too much work, it never works. Embrace it! @favvy_Okwansđź–¤.
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Keep Becoming

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"Adventure capital is the idea that the best of ideas in themselves are incomplete and requires redemption" — PK It is my belief that everything is a journey, from the discovery of self, to finding purpose, to new ideas, and every other thing in between. It’s a never ending carousel. We think we’ve arrived, and then life whispers, “we move.” As we grow, our thoughts stretch, our minds expand, and our convictions take on new depth. That’s why when I go back to read some of the things I wrote just a year ago, I can clearly see how much has shifted. Not because they were wrong, but because I’ve grown. Everything is becoming. And so are you. One of the most important things you can carry into any season is a flexible mindset. If you’re too rigid, you’ll resist growth. You’ll fight the very thing sent to evolve you. But if you understand that nothing is ever really final, that every version of you, every idea, every conclusion is in motion, then you’ll lean into change...
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The strength to go on when life feels heavy...

It's crazy how we keep showing up back to back. In fact, I would say we all need an award for pretending that everything is fine. Lol. --- Okay okay, content proper. Story time! I got a call today at work concerning a friend of mine who had collapsed and was rushed to the hospital since Sunday. Though she's better, she hasn't fully recovered. So at the close of work, I ran off to see her. She truly was very sick, and it was crazy that she had not been alright for a week now and I didn't know. I didn't check on someone I called a best friend for over one week. How ironic? I just sat there close to her and listened. Listened to her unwind and just talk. Ended up going home late though, but it was worth it. Life often gets so busy that we are utterly drowned in our world and chaos that we forget some important things in our lives. For someone that values friendship, it was sad to realize I hadn’t been present as much as I should. What's the essence of this story? L...
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When It Feels Like Nothing Is Working

Sometimes, not seeing progress can be very demotivating. That’s how I abandoned my daily Proverbs group for the longest time, and only recently did I go back to it. You know, it hurts when it feels like you’re pouring into silence, like you’re not getting the result you want. In fact, a lack of results can make you feel really discouraged. I don’t know if you’ve ever been there, driving a course you’re so passionate about, yet having nothing to show for it. But let me share with you one of the finest words I heard during that season of almost giving up on my Proverbs group: "Silence doesn’t mean your efforts are wasted. When you’re planting seeds, remember that seeds don’t always sprout immediately." And again, I was reminded of the power of compounding. Dearest reader, life is tough, lol. But jokes aside, the reality of things is often far from the idea of it. Passion is cheap and easy, but doing the real work? That one is insane. One thing that helped me this season was ask...
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