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"Positive confession on the wrong foundation is vanity." — Mr. Pojo I believe in calling forth things that are not as though they were, but I’ve come to understand that things work because they were built before they were spoken. Three things must align: our heart, mouth, and hands. Therefore, the mouth (the organ of confession/speech) becomes the bridge between the heart/mind (the seat of thoughts) and the hands (the organ of action). When these aren’t in alignment, whatever is professed becomes vain, amounting to nothing, as mere confessing doesn’t do the magic. After 430 years of slavery, the children of Israel were finally freed. However, they had accumulated decades of trauma, so God had them wander in circles for 40 years to remove Egypt (the trauma of slavery) from them. Now, let’s imagine if the children of Israel left Egypt and began confessing that they were free of Egypt (without addressing their trauma), would that have done the magic? Of course not. T

"We must heal from the things that hurt us, so we do not go around bleeding on those who did not cut us." For one, I read a lot of African literature. In my just-concluded read, Stay With Me by Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, I was moved to tears. The story of a mother showing no affection for her own child, simply because she had lost two children to the same illness, was heartbreaking. It felt demoralizing that such a young girl had to endure decades’ worth of hatred for something that was entirely beyond her control. This is what happens when we don't heal properly. We bleed on innocent people, hurt those who have done nothing but love us. It's my belief that we all go through at least one truly traumatizing experience that shapes us in profound ways. However, if we heal properly, we won’t make life difficult for those who genuinely care about us. Dearest reader, please heal. Go through the process and heal. Don't sweep your pain under the carpet—it will only

"We must heal from the things that hurt us, so we do not go around bleeding on those who did not cut us." For one, I read a lot of African literature. In my just-concluded read, Stay With Me by Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀, I was moved to tears. The story of a mother showing no affection for her own child, simply because she had lost two children to the same illness, was heartbreaking. It felt demoralizing that such a young girl had to endure decades’ worth of hatred for something that was entirely beyond her control. This is what happens when we don't heal properly. We bleed on innocent people, hurt those who have done nothing but love us. It's my belief that we all go through at least one truly traumatizing experience that shapes us in profound ways. However, if we heal properly, we won’t make life difficult for those who genuinely care about us. Dearest reader, please heal. Go through the process and heal. Don't sweep your pain under the carpet—it will only destroy you

When you are angry, that's the least time you should talk. I grew up hating myself, despising who I was so deeply that I even attempted suicide more than once. Why? Words! As a sensitive child, I was hurt by the simplest remarks. A joke that others brushed off often left me crying myself to sleep. How did this happen? Words! Words are far more powerful than we give them credit for. King Solomon wasn’t exaggerating when he said, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21). We often say things we don’t mean, but once spoken, words can’t be taken back. The damage is done. That’s why I tend to stay silent when I’m upset. Here’s what King Solomon also says about giving full vent to our anger: “Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end” (Proverbs 29:11). In the words of Pastor Kelly, "Words have power, so when you open your mouth to speak, make sure it’s healthy." Dearest reader

"If you were your enemy, how would you destroy yourself?" Mehn!! I was having a session with my coach, and he asked me the above question. Omor, I was speechless. But really, think about it: if you were your own enemy, what would you do to bring yourself down? What's the essence of this question? Well, if you watch a lot of movies like I do, you'll notice a pattern. The villain often gains an advantage by knowing the hero's weaknesses. Again and again, this knowledge becomes their unfair edge. Do you realize that if certain people discover a loophole in you, they could easily exploit it to your disadvantage? Even worse is being unaware of these loopholes, making you an easy target. So, what about you could be your downfall? Dearest reader, find the loophole and fix it before someone with ulterior motives takes advantage of it! We all have weaknesses, and predators or enemies are constantly on the lookout for that weak link to exploit. @favvy_Okwans🖤. 

I started a daily Proverbs group a few weeks back, and it's been challenging! The whole idea was to get people to consistently read the book of Proverbs every day, and so far, it’s been a success. But why Proverbs? There are so many books in the Bible—why did I pick Proverbs? And what’s so unique about this book? In the Hebrew Bible, the Book of Proverbs is called Mishlei Shlomo, meaning “The Proverbs of Solomon.” Though the book contains poems and short statements that offer guidance on how to live a wise, moral, and righteous life, what is its root? The root word for "proverb" comes from the Latin word proverbium. Proverbium combines the prefix pro- and the word verbum, which together mean “a word that you put forward” or “a common saying.” What makes the Book of Proverbs stand out to me from all the other books in the Bible is how it directly relates to our everyday experiences and life. In my daily Proverbs group, we are constantly amazed at how relatable,