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AUDACITY IS A SOFT SKILL.

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“One of the first things they teach you in driving school is how to hit the brake. Before you can be trusted with speed, you must first learn how to stop.”~ PIE What comes to mind when you hear the word “audacity”? The word chutzpah is often used to describe audacity or boldness. It comes from Jewish culture and is seen as a skill that can be developed. In some cultures, audacity is not just a personality trait, it is something you intentionally cultivate. Notice something? It is called a skill. Something you grow into. So audacity is not something you just stumble upon. It takes training, practice, and experience. Even though some people are naturally bold, it still takes growth for that boldness to become effective. However, in our part of the world, when we hear audacity, we think of boldness, courage, and confidence. We see it as personality, but really, it is a skill. One you grow into with intention. Take David in the Bible for example. It took audacity to face Goliat...
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DO YOU LOVE GOD?

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Calm down. Before you quickly say yes, think about it. *** Remember that story in the Bible about the servant who owed his master a huge amount of money, ten thousand talents to be exact. There was no way he could ever pay it back. So he fell on his knees and begged his master for mercy. And surprisingly, the master forgave him everything and cancelled the debt completely. The man was overjoyed. But on his way home, he met someone who owed him a small amount of money, just a hundred denarii, nothing compared to what he had just been forgiven. Instead of showing mercy, he grabbed the man, demanded his money and even had him thrown into prison until the debt was paid Plot twist abi? The same man who was shown massive mercy could not show a little mercy. That story shows how hypocritical we humans can be. We receive grace so easily, yet struggle to extend it to others. God has shown us mercy, grace, and unconditional love. The best way to respond to that love is by showing it to people ar...
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There’s something a character said that stayed with me, my favourite book boyfriend of all time, Ahmed Babangida. He said and I’ll quote, “Any man will claim to love you, but will that love remain on the days you’re difficult to love?” Claiming to love someone is easy, but can you love them even regardless and upon still? Because that’s the true test of love. People go through phases, life happens, and one day they become difficult to love. When they are consumed by grief, frustration, and the insufferable pain of existence, would you still feel the same? Love is not just in the soft moments, the pretty days, the laughter and light. Love is in patience when moods change, in understanding when words are sharp, in staying when walking away seems easier. It’s choosing someone even when they are not at their best, even when loving them feels heavy. Because real love doesn’t run when things get uncomfortable. It sits, listens, holds space, and grows deeper through the storms. Dearest reader...
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One thing I’ve always struggled with is having multiple interests. For the longest time, I kept trying to figure out that one thing I was supposed to choose and specialize in. That one skill I should pour 100 percent of my attention into, especially for the sake of monetization. But I never arrived at that one thing. And honestly? It sucked. I hated myself for it. I felt confused. I felt scattered. I felt like I was doing life wrong. But then I realized something. I didn’t create me, I am a lot of things, I am layered, i am diverse. I am infinite in interests and ideas. Why should I shrink myself to fit into one box when God made me with many colors? I will hop on every chance at an adventure. I will explore every passion that calls my name. I will jump on ideas without fear. Because we rarely regret the things we do. What we regret are the things we never tried.And monetization? It will find me, abeg. As long as I keep expressing all that I am. Dearest reader, if you’ve ever felt pres...
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EVERYBODY IS LYING.

Yes, you read that right. After watching over 14 episodes of How to Get Away With Murder, I’ve come to this conclusion. In the words of Annalise Keating, “there’s no truth in the courtroom, there’s just your version of what happened versus theirs. That’s how the justice system works. It’s not what’s right or what’s fair, it’s who tells the most convincing story.” The truth is, there is more than one side to every story. There’s the head, the tail, and the edge. To truly understand the whole story, you have to sit on the edge, where you can see both the head and the tail clearly. But most times, we’re either facing the head or the tail. That’s all we see. So when someone else tells their side, it sounds like a lie to us, simply because it’s different from what we know. And maybe they're lying. At the end of the day, it’s not really about who is lying or who isn’t. It’s about what you choose to believe. You're always choosing to believe something. And that’s one scary thing I’ve ...
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merry Friyay

Another Friday to end the week with a kinda day that almost took my life… mehn, today was wild. But then again, nah, today was terrific. The laughter, the smiles, the shared moments and all were even more than the down moments. But then again, the brain tends to remember the gory details because we don’t let them go easily. I can count over 7 things that made my day great and made me happy, however I can’t count more than 2 things that ruined my day. I lost an important possession, and one little thing didn’t go as planned. Funny enough, those two small things almost overshadowed everything beautiful that happened today. That’s how the brain works sometimes. It takes one tiny bad moment and stretches it till it feels like the whole day was a mess. It zooms in on pain and blurs out everything else, It replays the wrong and fast forwards the right. It’s called negativity bias, the tendency of our mind to cling to the bad stronger than the good. Even when happiness showed up plenty, one i...
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Did you know that some people living with depression and anxiety continue to function normally in daily life? They go to work, attend school, laugh with friends, and carry on with responsibilities like nothing is wrong. This is known as functional or high functioning depression and anxiety. That’s the new thing I learned today. I find it fascinating how someone can be sunny, bright, and lively like every other day, while still battling so much internally. Because they appear fine on the outside, their mental health struggles are often overlooked or even dismissed. Often when we hear the word depression, we think of something very extreme. Many people imagine depression or anxiety as constant crying, staying in bed all day, or having a sad and downcast look. But the truth is, depression does not always look loud. Sometimes it looks like showing up every day. Sometimes it looks like smiling through pain. Sometimes it looks like being productive while breaking silently inside. The real de...
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